James Sexton

Like, you know, you don't, if you say to someone, you know, we're not having sex as much as we used to.

Common complaint in long-term relationships.

That invites defensiveness.

Well, yeah, you're not around as much.

You're working all the time.

Well, I'm working all the time because you spend all the money.

Well, I'm spending money because I'm other.

Okay.

I love feeling connected to you.

I love, I miss the smell of you.

I love when we get to spend some time together.

Okay, now we're already, I'm coming from a point of connection rather than a point of criticism.

I'm pointing out what it is that, I'm praising the opposite, right?

Instead of saying, why aren't you doing this?

I'm saying, God, when you do this, it's so good.

I love that about you.

Like, we should do that more, you know, like, man, if if I if I haven't made time for that and that's where we're at, like, I'm really sorry because, boy, it's so important to me.

Who's not going to jump on that?

Who's not going to be like, okay, I'm in.

Like the story I've said before is that, you know, I shave every day for work.