Jay Shetty

One, genuine eye contact before you speak.

Not after.

Before.

This signals presence.

Two, a genuine smile.

Not a performance smile, but the kind where your eyes change.

And three, orient your body fully toward them, not sideways, not half turned, fully facing.

This is a non-verbal signal that in the language of evolutionary psychology says, you have my complete attention.

You are not a threat and I'm not looking for someone better to talk to.

Imagine someone did that to you.

How many times have you talked to someone and someone's looking all around?

They're looking behind you.

They're even looking at the screen up there.

They're looking over at who just walked in.

How does that make you feel?

How about when someone's kind of turned away, you kind of feel like they don't want to be there and neither do you.

These three things take no social skill, no charisma, no clever words.

And actually what I love about them is they lead to real connection.

You're not trying to walk out with the award for funniest person at the party.

You're not trying to walk out with the medal for smartest person in the room.