Jefferson Fisher

You know, barista asks, how's your day? Oh, it's good. I'm fine. How are you? Oh, good, I'm fine. We're just pressing buttons. We're not really living in it. Let me tell you the one trick to making sure that it does work with your kids and with your husband. We want the trick. This is what I live by, and I teach this to every one of my clients, and it is this.

You know, barista asks, how's your day? Oh, it's good. I'm fine. How are you? Oh, good, I'm fine. We're just pressing buttons. We're not really living in it. Let me tell you the one trick to making sure that it does work with your kids and with your husband. We want the trick. This is what I live by, and I teach this to every one of my clients, and it is this.

Let your breath be the first word that you say. So where your first word would be of going, no, I'm good, I'm good, You put a breath in its place. And so when you have the mindset of a breath being the word, I mean, it's because you're saying something. Even in that pause, in that breath, in that silence, it might be the absence of words. It's not the absence of communication.

Let your breath be the first word that you say. So where your first word would be of going, no, I'm good, I'm good, You put a breath in its place. And so when you have the mindset of a breath being the word, I mean, it's because you're saying something. Even in that pause, in that breath, in that silence, it might be the absence of words. It's not the absence of communication.

So if you ask me how my day was and I go... I conveyed something right there. That's a sigh. I'm sending the message to you. Without words, it was heavy. It was a load. It was a lot. And when you have that pause, it's the invitation to connect.

So if you ask me how my day was and I go... I conveyed something right there. That's a sigh. I'm sending the message to you. Without words, it was heavy. It was a load. It was a lot. And when you have that pause, it's the invitation to connect.

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It really is. And the thing with communication of what it makes it so important on top of just the pause and the ability to take a moment and express how you really feel is that what you say. for the vast majority of your life, is who you are. That's how people will experience you. That's how people will experience Jamie. That's how people will experience Jefferson.

It really is. And the thing with communication of what it makes it so important on top of just the pause and the ability to take a moment and express how you really feel is that what you say. for the vast majority of your life, is who you are. That's how people will experience you. That's how people will experience Jamie. That's how people will experience Jefferson.

It's not by really what you do that they might see that act of kindness. It's what you say. When you say, I like that person, you just met them. You say, I like that person. They were nice. What you really mean is they said nice things. Somebody's rude and you don't like them. Yeah, that person's rude. Just means that what you heard is you didn't like. It's not a rude to you.

It's not by really what you do that they might see that act of kindness. It's what you say. When you say, I like that person, you just met them. You say, I like that person. They were nice. What you really mean is they said nice things. Somebody's rude and you don't like them. Yeah, that person's rude. Just means that what you heard is you didn't like. It's not a rude to you.

So for the vast majority, it is your words is what describes who you are to those people. That's what's going to describe and evaluate your legacy. That's the ripple effect.

So for the vast majority, it is your words is what describes who you are to those people. That's what's going to describe and evaluate your legacy. That's the ripple effect.

Are you ready for the tea? Yes. Okay.

Are you ready for the tea? Yes. Okay.

Are you ready for the tea? Yes. Okay, my wife, no, I'm kidding. She's a fantastic communicator. Law really teaches you to be concise. And what I like to compare it is I'm a lot slower. She operates a lot faster. But often we have to communicate the same level. You have two kids and you're raising a family and everything. It's a lot. Our arguments are very short.

Are you ready for the tea? Yes. Okay, my wife, no, I'm kidding. She's a fantastic communicator. Law really teaches you to be concise. And what I like to compare it is I'm a lot slower. She operates a lot faster. But often we have to communicate the same level. You have two kids and you're raising a family and everything. It's a lot. Our arguments are very short.

And the reason because of that is we operate on this... very quick to apologize, very quick to resolve. If you want your argument to be shorter with your spouse, with your partner, with your friend, be quick to apologize. So often it is the continual circular arguments that just tend to roll on forever. because you can't really sleep.

And the reason because of that is we operate on this... very quick to apologize, very quick to resolve. If you want your argument to be shorter with your spouse, with your partner, with your friend, be quick to apologize. So often it is the continual circular arguments that just tend to roll on forever. because you can't really sleep.