Jefferson Fisher

How does that happen to where you can make sure that the conversation is going to end better than had it gone had you not?

What I teach is let your breath be the first word that you say, meaning when somebody says something to you that makes you prickle, makes you kind of get bowed up, so to speak.

Let your breath be the first word.

So where your first word would be, put a breath in its place.

And if you're listening right now, we can do it together.

So it's what they call a double inhalation.

You're going to breathe through your nose twice.

It's not exaggerated.

It's not weird.

I teach all of my clients and prep my witnesses to do it, and it works really well.

So you're going to go about two seconds in through your nose, one more at the top, then out through your nose.

And just right now listening to me, I bet your shoulders softened a little bit.

I bet all of a sudden you're realizing the breath that you're taking.

When they say breath work, all it is is just simply a focus on realizing that you're breathing because throughout the day, we hold our breath.

If you've ever been talking to somebody and somebody goes, why are you yelling?

And you go, I'm not yelling.

It's because you've been holding and pressuring that breath, which puts you in a low-grade state of anxiety because your body's saying, hey, you're suffocating me here.

I feel like I'm drowning here.

And so that's why that air has nowhere else to go but out and to yell and to say something is wrong when people have anxiety or panic attacks.

And so you use your breath to regulate yourself.