Jemma Spake

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The Psychology of your 20s · 409. How to manage your anxiety about the future · 23 Apr 2026 podcast

So condense your timeframe, try any possible strategy you have to just refocus on the present, refocus on the next couple of weeks.

And I would also say, if you're really dealing with some like incredible personal anxiety about the future,

Use history as your compass.

Really dig into your memory to provide relief.

Essentially, remember the times in the past where you thought the worst case scenario was all but certain and actually it didn't happen.

Try and remember

from previous experiences where you entered a room and you thought it was going to be terrible, when you got on a flight and you thought you were going to be scared, when you moved to a new city and you thought you'd never make friends, and how far removed you are from that negative situation now, how differently things turned out.

The best antidote to my future anxieties is just calling out how they have never been accurate in the past.

Never.

My anxiety is such an unreliable narrator.

It has never been right about a situation.

So why do I keep believing it?

Why do you keep believing it?

And if you can remember a time, it has been right.

And if you're wanting to use that as evidence that it might be right in the future,

Think about the fact that you are still here and that you still found a way to cope.

Because so often when we have these negative assessments, again, we don't think about the coping.

We just think about how terrible the feeling is going to be.

We just remove and suddenly forget that we have agency and that we'll be able to ever do anything about it.

This is where I really want to talk about the philosophy of Marcus Aurelius, who used this strategy, I guess, used this idea called negative visualization.

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