Jemma Spike

Okay, next on the list, learn how to send things back.

More generally, I really mean learn how to stick up for yourself.

Now, when I say learn how to send things back,

Obviously, I mean learn how to send things back at the restaurant.

If they get your order wrong, learn how to be like, that's not what I wanted in a kind way.

Learn how to be like, that's not what I asked for.

Learn how to be like, that's not the behavior or the thing that I deserve, the attitude that I deserve.

More generally, I really mean...

at some stage in your 20s, you need to learn that being nice, being kind, being polite and being respectful are not all the same thing.

There is a lot of nuance to our good behavior and there's a lot of

People who benefit from us believing that being a kind person means we have to be passive, overly nice, overly self-effacing.

It is really critical that during this decade, you start to unlearn that.

For the first half of my twenties, I...

I think I just kind of let people walk all over me.

I would never send anything back at a restaurant.

I would never complain about anything.

I would never stand up for myself.

And I just lost out on so much.

And I just wasted so much money and time.

And it only like changed very recently, actually, when I was in Australia and I was living at this house in Newtown.