Jemma Spike

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And it's like kind of a funny story, but there was just this one day where I had this neighbor who didn't like me very much and who I didn't get along with very well, who was kind of this older woman.

And one day it was like 3 p.m.

and we were like playing, I don't know, Charlie XCX.

It was a beautiful sunny day.

And she like came out and she just like let loose at me and she was yelling at me.

She was like, obviously had been very frustrated by me.

And she was like,

how are you playing music?

We were like, well, it's 3 p.m.

Anyways, long story short, it was just this moment where I was like being really, really nice, being very apologetic.

And then I kind of just was like, I don't really have to take this anymore.

Like I'm not a little kid.

Like I can't get in trouble.

I'm not a child.

Like I can just stick up for myself.

And it was so interesting like seeing how her approach to me just like shifted in that moment and seeing how she – I genuinely – this is going to sound so weird, but I felt like I –

became like an adult in that moment and I could see her in her eyes how she was viewing me as a child in the beginning and then the moment that I like switched and stood up for myself she started treating me as an adult and I just think it's such an essential skill to just be like actually I don't deserve this actually I don't want this actually I didn't order this and I'm going to say something because my time and my money and my wants and my needs and desires are just as important as anybody else.

The fourth thing you should absolutely do in your 20s, quit something you really depended on.

Whether that is nicotine, whether that is alcohol, whether that is a person, a bad habit, whatever it is.