Jemma Spike

If this person isn't like an abusive asshole, like what's wrong with getting a little bit hurt?

What's wrong with getting your heart a little bit broken?

And just really feeling like the profound lessons and shocks of love genuinely

I would have nothing without heartbreak.

I look around at my life and my apartment in London and my job and my dog and my friends and my book, just all these things.

And I'm like, I would have none of this if...

those like and I'm thinking of like a couple specific relationships but like yeah if a couple specific relationships hadn't worked out and if I'm being completely honest one of those relationships for sure I entered knowing I was going to get hurt and I think a part of me made peace with that because I was like but what comes after is going to be freaking amazing like talk about fertile soil in our 20s like breakups are the most fertile emotional soil that

you will come across they will transform your life they are genuinely like steroids for self-development so even if the relationship doesn't work out if you have the opportunity to just like bet it all on love and to just be like i'm so down to just get obliterated here

I think you should absolutely do it.

And if you don't agree with me, that's also okay.

Feel free to send me some feedback on that one.

Number eight, quit the first job you have, even if it is your dream job.

Another controversial one.

I quit my dream job.

I quit my dream job because a major part of me knew that being...

too comfortable gets me pretty close to being stagnant.

I just think, again, you have to let yourself see what else is out there and see what else could come at you.

You have to increase like your target space for luck to hit you.

And if you just stay in the same space, if you just stay in the same job, even if it is really an amazing job and it is paying you really well and you worked really hard for it,

I think you get left with a lot of what ifs.