Jessamyn
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169 appearances
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Feb 2025
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We went to the other room of the other room.
Right.
No, we didn't.
Hmm. I mean, honestly, it's, it's a terrible thing, but like everyone's different. Every woman is going to have a different expectation. I know with, I'm thinking of like our first kiss, maybe some other first kisses that I've had, not that I've had a million, but you know, I think
I remember with us, it was, we were sitting next to each other and there was just like, we've been talking for at least an hour at that point. Right. We'd have like a drink or two, no more than two.
And, um, there was just like a lull in the conversation and we were looking at each other and, you know, if you're maintaining good eye contact with her and she keeps it up, then that's usually a pretty good sign. If you're looking for a more verbal sort of confirmation, it can kind of go either way. Definitely depends on the, you know, circumstances.
But I think there have been a couple of times where, like, a guy has said, like, I'm going to kiss you now. And I feel like out of context it sounds super weird, but it definitely works. It's the moments, right, if you have that same kind of will in the conversation. Yeah. You can also ask, too. Consent is sexy. You can always ask.
Yeah.
Yeah, there's that antiquated like three days rule kind of thing. Wait three days before you call her or text her or whatever. And that's just all that does is cause anxiety for both people. There's no reason to wait. There's no reason to play hard to get, especially after you've just met this person for the first time.
I think doing it at the end of the day, like you say, like, hey, I had a great time. I'd like to see you again. If she says, no, I'm not feeling it, then everything's set right there. Like, there's no question. You're not, there's no uncertainty. You know, you just move on with your life. But you also don't have to do it right away.
But I think at the very least, you know, text her the next day, maybe later that night. Just say like, hey, I had a great time. But definitely communicate what you want and what you're interested in because how else is she going to know? Women are very intuitive, but we're not mind readers.
Likewise.
What do you got? All right. I mean, I got three don'ts. I have a lot of don'ts, but I think there are some that are more maybe universal than others. I think one of the ones that we've heard time and time again is just don't. Your first date, whatever date it is, it's likely going to be at a bar, at a restaurant, at a coffee shop, whatever. Rule of thumb is don't be a dick to the service staff.
Don't be rude to anybody, but it's a very specific thing when you are intentionally rude or dismissive to somebody that's serving your food or serving your drinks or just working.
it there's a power imbalance that's kind of set up there yeah and it just immediately communicates this like if someone's going to be this easily dismissive or rude yeah a complete stranger how are they going to treat somebody that they know that's a great tip a woman notices if you're rude to the hired help yeah like i verbally assaulted my butler this morning and i felt so bad afterwards yeah your butler
Pet names. So calling, like using like kind of common, you know, maybe in like the banter that you have before the date, you can jokingly come up with a nickname like Shmoopy. Right. But things like hun or sweetie or sweetheart or babe. One, it kind of like communicates the familiarity that she might not be ready for, especially considering she's just met you.
Another thing is like, like sweetie, sweetheart, hon. Like those are things that if I'm getting like cat called on the street, that's what guys call me. Or like when I was working as a server a million years ago, they'd be like, hey, sweetheart. Like it just has, you run the risk of it having this really crappy negative connotation. And it's just a little too familiar. So just avoid it.
Best, best option. There's a very small chance that she's like, Oh, he didn't call me baby the first time we met. So it's a no go. Just you're better off just avoiding it.
There's a difference between sharing your interests and just going on a full-on rant or... going like off the rails. So like being like bitter or negative about something. So like I put on my profile pretty clearly, I hate hiking.
Exactly. It was kind of something that I put out there. And you could have said like, oh, I love hiking. Like, well, maybe, you know, I can take, like you could have, if you did like hiking, you could have like spun it and it could have like generated conversation. We connected on like hating hiking, whatever.
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