Jessi

I mean, like, it's not even a comparison.

I think one of the things, now that I think back, it was, I said, if I was ever asked that question about our son, I would never, I might have felt that way, right?

Like, would I want my son to date someone like you?

You know, because in that moment, I'm only worried about, would I want my son to date someone who had an affair?

And I would have obviously said no.

but I would never have said that out loud, right?

I would have given it context.

Well, no, not someone that would have an affair, but that's not who Jesse is.

Like that's not her authentic self.

Like that was one of the things that I remember like harping on her and like being pissed off about.

In the moment I was like, you can say there, I remember saying something along the lines of like, you, you could have said who he, uh, in certain moments.

No.

Or something like that.

I don't remember like specifically, but something like that.

Um, but yeah, I was, I was definitely like,

If there's a chance at your relationship, I think that was kind of the point.

We were in this limbo place, and if you're going to make an accusation or make a comment like that, that's where that anger was coming from in that moment.

because well actually it's it's it's funny enough i remember when i asked jesse's dad for her hand and uh i remember saying him saying um he's not like the very like sentimental type like at all like he's very much like how would you describe your dad just not emotional

no like there's like emotion plays like no role in anything and i just remember him like like giving this whole spiel and and doing all this stuff and i just remember him going like this he just was like she's your problem now and i just remember one of the things that i promised him was that like divorce was not an option for me like it's just not like i don't want to do this with that ever even being an option like this is it and

I don't know.