Jessica Baum

And he was in a position of power because he met those needs so well for you.

I know it's a re-experiencing, but I think it's the re-experiencing with the support that makes the difference.

The way to heal this, Saskia, is now through the work with me, but also other people who you can be vulnerable with, who see you, who hold this sadness with you.

Instead of finding a new man and a new solution, we need to slow down and start to learn what's going on inside and be with our core wounds.

And a way to break this pattern is to lean on other people who don't medicate the trauma but can be with you in your pain.

I do have people that I know care about me.

Who's one of those people?

That is literally the only thing we need is we just need people to be with us.

I think there's a piece to trauma survivors where we are not used to people who accept us unconditionally and like us when we're messy and can be with all our parts.

So we're like, I have to perform.

You feel like just trying to block it out of your psyche is how you've been protecting yourself from it?

Yeah, for sure.

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elizabeth i think you can't fathom how she could choose this man over his daughter which has a lot to do also with what that brings up inside of you which clearly you have a very strong and appropriate response to that level of betrayal she might be doing to her daughter by choosing this love over her daughter and so that's one piece but a really big piece of this is about attachment

elizabeth i think you can't fathom how she could choose this man over his daughter which has a lot to do also with what that brings up inside of you which clearly you have a very strong and appropriate response to that level of betrayal she might be doing to her daughter by choosing this love over her daughter and so that's one piece but a really big piece of this is about attachment

elizabeth i think you can't fathom how she could choose this man over his daughter which has a lot to do also with what that brings up inside of you which clearly you have a very strong and appropriate response to that level of betrayal she might be doing to her daughter by choosing this love over her daughter and so that's one piece but a really big piece of this is about attachment

and how our brains work. And our brains actually have us live in denial and remember the good times when these kinds of things come up to protect us. We are wired to stay in connection. So Sarah is wired to stay in connection with this guy. And it wasn't that black and white for Ashley either.

and how our brains work. And our brains actually have us live in denial and remember the good times when these kinds of things come up to protect us. We are wired to stay in connection. So Sarah is wired to stay in connection with this guy. And it wasn't that black and white for Ashley either.