Jessica Lanyadoo

your job is only to model healthy self-care, which includes recognizing where you can't and where you don't want to, and recognizing how that brings up shame and how you don't want your kids to have shame.

And that doesn't mean, therefore, you don't feel shame.

It means, therefore, how you engage with yourself around your shame is modeling for the child's

how to navigate through feelings because having shame is, I mean, listen, you have a Scorpio stellium shame.

Come on.

I don't want to, I don't want to rob you of one of your core feelings.

Like it is like, it's a thing, right?

You, you do experience it.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And we could spend, you know, two hours a week for the next couple of years talking about shame, easy peasy.

Like, you know what I mean?

Like, and your relationship to it.

But in the context of this, setting the goal for yourself that you never have thoughts or feelings that are connected to shame is a terrible goal.

It's an awful goal.

It's unrealistic goal.

Like, I am a triple Capricorn.

I would never set the goal for myself to be easygoing.

I'm not easygoing.

It's a terrible fucking goal, right?