Jessica Lanyadoo

Like, you want to make self-appropriate goals.

And that doesn't mean to not challenge yourself, but it's to be able to say to yourself when you're experiencing shame because you've done something or not done something, to say to yourself, okay, I'm feeling these feelings.

I understand that I am being unkind to myself in this moment.

I don't know how to fix it.

I don't know what to do, but I am going to let my wiser parts say, this shame is not me.

It's a feeling I'm having.

Yeah.

Much like when your human child emerges into this world, they will gnash their teeth and they will wail.

They will cry.

Babies cry.

And the feeling, you've been around babies, right?

So you've been around wailing babies.

Yeah.

The feeling of that crying, it becomes like their whole fucking existence to them in that moment, right?

Like that's all they can feel.

But as an adult, your wiser part is like, okay, this baby is experiencing something that's making them

just like the world is about to end.

And you know that this wailing and this sadness will pass.

Your wiser part knows they are not the sadness.

They are not this grief.