Jillian Michaels

Where is this coming from and why?

If we, instead of going, oh, I think I'm ashamed because of what they did or what they told me or what they... Now listen, people are absolutely at one point or another, very often victims.

However, how we choose to respond to that injury, okay, at one time...

absolutely meant your psychological survival.

It is how you survived that injury.

The problem is it perpetuates and it no longer serves.

But if we continue to repeat the pattern, it's actually called, has a name, it's called a repetition compulsion.

And the goal is I will master this.

I will play this out.

It's safer to play it out externally than where those feelings really belong because that's painful.

It's also safer because you don't have to suffer

the primal loss of whatever was missing.

So now, can I give you an example?

I'm a shitty parent.

We talked about this, but just follow me, right?

I'm a shitty parent.

I'm not there for you.

Okay.

Instead of you saying, oh my God, my mom was never available.

I didn't get what I needed.