Jillian Turecki

You enjoy being touched by them. You enjoy kissing them. Like there's attraction there. You agree on what a life well lived is. And you really feel comfortable being who you are when you're with them.

I don't know. I think that's a story that people tell themselves. Why do we do that? What I've seen is we've made some poor choices and so that we look back at that person and we romanticize them and pedestal them and actually see them maybe better. than what they were better for us. And so we get into our heads and we romanticize them. So I'm not quite sure.

I don't know. I think that's a story that people tell themselves. Why do we do that? What I've seen is we've made some poor choices and so that we look back at that person and we romanticize them and pedestal them and actually see them maybe better. than what they were better for us. And so we get into our heads and we romanticize them. So I'm not quite sure.

What I do know for sure is that if you tell yourself that story, well, then you're just like sealing your fate, that there's just no one else out there for you. And to me, that's part of the whole romanticism theory that keeps us very stuck in suffering.

What I do know for sure is that if you tell yourself that story, well, then you're just like sealing your fate, that there's just no one else out there for you. And to me, that's part of the whole romanticism theory that keeps us very stuck in suffering.

I know.

I know.

It's quite manipulative, isn't it?

It's quite manipulative, isn't it?

Yes.

Yes.

Yeah. I love talking about this because I'm someone, I tend to lean sort of intellectual. And when I am not centered, I leaned as a lot of people do. And a lot of women these days anxious. So I can get like very like ruminating, analytical and all that. So I feel very equipped. And also I, when I work with so many people, I mean,

Yeah. I love talking about this because I'm someone, I tend to lean sort of intellectual. And when I am not centered, I leaned as a lot of people do. And a lot of women these days anxious. So I can get like very like ruminating, analytical and all that. So I feel very equipped. And also I, when I work with so many people, I mean,

the stories that they tell themselves about themselves and about their partner, that's not rooted in the truth because they're not communicating. I mean, it's the stories in our heads that ruin relationships. So how do we get out of our heads? Well, we start telling the truth and we start communicating. Like that's like the low hanging fruit, like build enough self-awareness

the stories that they tell themselves about themselves and about their partner, that's not rooted in the truth because they're not communicating. I mean, it's the stories in our heads that ruin relationships. So how do we get out of our heads? Well, we start telling the truth and we start communicating. Like that's like the low hanging fruit, like build enough self-awareness

And this takes practice where you can say, oh, I'm in my head right now. I am getting lost in a story right now because it's a habit. And some people really have a bad habit of getting lost in such a story about another person and then get themselves so worked up. And so what you have to do is keep practicing. That's that storyteller in me right now. That's a storyteller.

And this takes practice where you can say, oh, I'm in my head right now. I am getting lost in a story right now because it's a habit. And some people really have a bad habit of getting lost in such a story about another person and then get themselves so worked up. And so what you have to do is keep practicing. That's that storyteller in me right now. That's a storyteller.

Maybe something else is true. Could something else be true? Let me communicate. Getting out of our heads is also getting in our bodies. So exercise, movement, breath work, going for a long walk, having a long healing process. conversation with a friend, doing something where you're social. If we're too much in isolation and we're spending too much time with ourselves, we're too much in our heads.

Maybe something else is true. Could something else be true? Let me communicate. Getting out of our heads is also getting in our bodies. So exercise, movement, breath work, going for a long walk, having a long healing process. conversation with a friend, doing something where you're social. If we're too much in isolation and we're spending too much time with ourselves, we're too much in our heads.

So it's a really beautiful strategy to get out of our heads when we see a friend or two, or we even go to something that we're invited to and just, because then our attention is outwardly focused. Like right now, our attention is outwardly focused. Yes, we have to go a little inward to kind of think, you have to go inward to kind of think of the question, right?