Jillian Turecki

So it's a really beautiful strategy to get out of our heads when we see a friend or two, or we even go to something that we're invited to and just, because then our attention is outwardly focused. Like right now, our attention is outwardly focused. Yes, we have to go a little inward to kind of think, you have to go inward to kind of think of the question, right?

I have to go a little bit inward to kind of give you an answer. But we're very, because we're having this like conversation, it's just you and me and the lights are on us and the cameras are rolling, we're outward focused. And when we're alone, everything is so inward focused. So moving our bodies is always the easiest, fastest way to get out of our heads. It's really, and it's daily movement.

I have to go a little bit inward to kind of give you an answer. But we're very, because we're having this like conversation, it's just you and me and the lights are on us and the cameras are rolling, we're outward focused. And when we're alone, everything is so inward focused. So moving our bodies is always the easiest, fastest way to get out of our heads. It's really, and it's daily movement.

It's like, oh, I'm in my head. I'm going to go for a walk. Oh, I'm in my head. Maybe I have to take a cold shower. Get out of this state. Maybe I have to talk to someone. But it starts with the awareness of, you know, my mind, all of our minds can become battlefields.

It's like, oh, I'm in my head. I'm going to go for a walk. Oh, I'm in my head. Maybe I have to take a cold shower. Get out of this state. Maybe I have to talk to someone. But it starts with the awareness of, you know, my mind, all of our minds can become battlefields.

Our mind can be a beautiful thing, but if we don't stand guard of our mind, we are going to be in serious trouble and no one is invulnerable to that.

Our mind can be a beautiful thing, but if we don't stand guard of our mind, we are going to be in serious trouble and no one is invulnerable to that.

Exactly. So true.

Exactly. So true.

Yeah, a little stuck.

Yeah, a little stuck.

Yeah. But you're just kind of like coasting, maybe borderline a little bit bored or complacent. Yeah. So like, let's say this couple has kids. stop making your kids the only focus of your life. You have to, your children actually want you to focus on each other. That's what's gonna be really good.

Yeah. But you're just kind of like coasting, maybe borderline a little bit bored or complacent. Yeah. So like, let's say this couple has kids. stop making your kids the only focus of your life. You have to, your children actually want you to focus on each other. That's what's gonna be really good.

Like you are benefiting your children's mental health and lives when you are connecting with each other. So that's important. Shake things up a little bit. whether that's individually or together. Go on a date, try something new, bring some novelty, whether that's in the bedroom or completely outside of the bedroom. Take some time to really connect with each other.

Like you are benefiting your children's mental health and lives when you are connecting with each other. So that's important. Shake things up a little bit. whether that's individually or together. Go on a date, try something new, bring some novelty, whether that's in the bedroom or completely outside of the bedroom. Take some time to really connect with each other.

Maybe it's sitting down and having a meal and just being like, okay, we're gonna put the phones away and we're gonna really connect. And maybe we're gonna talk about something a little bit deeper today. I had dinner over at a friend's last night and it was so wonderful. We just went into really deep stuff.

Maybe it's sitting down and having a meal and just being like, okay, we're gonna put the phones away and we're gonna really connect. And maybe we're gonna talk about something a little bit deeper today. I had dinner over at a friend's last night and it was so wonderful. We just went into really deep stuff.

I mean, also sprinkled in with a little fun and silly stuff, but we just went into very deep stuff. And it's like, wow, this is so refreshing to be around people where you can be vulnerable and open. And I think couples kind of, you don't want to be doing that all the time because you need a little levity. So this is an interesting thing. As a couple, maybe you have to do a temperature check.

I mean, also sprinkled in with a little fun and silly stuff, but we just went into very deep stuff. And it's like, wow, this is so refreshing to be around people where you can be vulnerable and open. And I think couples kind of, you don't want to be doing that all the time because you need a little levity. So this is an interesting thing. As a couple, maybe you have to do a temperature check.

Like, do we need a little bit of levity? Like, do we need a little bit of lightness? Have we been too bogged down with their routines? Are we talking about the relationship too much? And we need to have like some fun. then do something new, do something fun.