Jillian Turecki

Save yourself. And choose someone who's going to have your back while you do that.

What I will say first, because I think this is important, I don't, in the book, I do say if you were sexually abused or terribly abused, I would no way tell someone to make peace with their parent. What I would encourage them to do is to figure out how to become the hero of their story rather than just the survivor.

What I will say first, because I think this is important, I don't, in the book, I do say if you were sexually abused or terribly abused, I would no way tell someone to make peace with their parent. What I would encourage them to do is to figure out how to become the hero of their story rather than just the survivor.

even if you never speak to their parent again, you have to figure out a way to question the story that you have about them so that you are looking at them and thinking of them through the lens of your adult self and not your child self. Because if you don't, that is going to infiltrate your romantic life and cause you a lot of problems. I wish that was one word, but it's a tough one.

even if you never speak to their parent again, you have to figure out a way to question the story that you have about them so that you are looking at them and thinking of them through the lens of your adult self and not your child self. Because if you don't, that is going to infiltrate your romantic life and cause you a lot of problems. I wish that was one word, but it's a tough one.

I know I'm going to say something and then later I'm like, oh my God, I'm going to change that. One Laura. Oh my God. Letting go is so much easier than clinging. Letting go is so much easier than clinging. It's really hard, but your life will be so much better. than clinging if you learn to just let things be.

I know I'm going to say something and then later I'm like, oh my God, I'm going to change that. One Laura. Oh my God. Letting go is so much easier than clinging. Letting go is so much easier than clinging. It's really hard, but your life will be so much better. than clinging if you learn to just let things be.

Thank you so much for having me.

Thank you so much for having me.

Thank you. You too.

Thank you. You too.

Yes. Everything that you do inside of a relationship that you are really confused about that's been maddening to you and to your former partners or anything that... anything that you are questioning, it can be boiled down to the fact that you are afraid that you're not enough for this person. And if you're not enough, that somehow love is going to be taken away from you. Because if we

Yes. Everything that you do inside of a relationship that you are really confused about that's been maddening to you and to your former partners or anything that... anything that you are questioning, it can be boiled down to the fact that you are afraid that you're not enough for this person. And if you're not enough, that somehow love is going to be taken away from you. Because if we

Yes. Everything that you do inside of a relationship that you are really confused about that's been maddening to you and to your former partners or anything that... anything that you are questioning, it can be boiled down to the fact that you are afraid that you're not enough for this person. And if you're not enough, that somehow love is going to be taken away from you. Because if we

when we are confronted with that insecurity that we are not good enough in some way, that's when we start to act out all our weirdness inside of a relationship, honestly. And yes, of course, there's childhood, there's conditioning, there's your parents. All these things are influences. But When people are angry, they're afraid. When people are lashing out, they're afraid.

when we are confronted with that insecurity that we are not good enough in some way, that's when we start to act out all our weirdness inside of a relationship, honestly. And yes, of course, there's childhood, there's conditioning, there's your parents. All these things are influences. But When people are angry, they're afraid. When people are lashing out, they're afraid.

when we are confronted with that insecurity that we are not good enough in some way, that's when we start to act out all our weirdness inside of a relationship, honestly. And yes, of course, there's childhood, there's conditioning, there's your parents. All these things are influences. But When people are angry, they're afraid. When people are lashing out, they're afraid.

When people are clinging, they're afraid. When people are shutting down, they are afraid. And I started the book and named it, It Begins With You, because no one is going to stand in your way more than you. No one is going to lie to you more than you do to yourself. Same for me. This is just everyone. And it's not about you're the only person to blame. It's not about blame at all.

When people are clinging, they're afraid. When people are shutting down, they are afraid. And I started the book and named it, It Begins With You, because no one is going to stand in your way more than you. No one is going to lie to you more than you do to yourself. Same for me. This is just everyone. And it's not about you're the only person to blame. It's not about blame at all.

When people are clinging, they're afraid. When people are shutting down, they are afraid. And I started the book and named it, It Begins With You, because no one is going to stand in your way more than you. No one is going to lie to you more than you do to yourself. Same for me. This is just everyone. And it's not about you're the only person to blame. It's not about blame at all.