Jillian Turecki

So, people think that when they get married, their problems are going to go away.

The marriage is going to heal it. No, the marriage only shines a light.

The marriage is going to heal it. No, the marriage only shines a light.

The marriage is going to heal it. No, the marriage only shines a light.

So then the 10% became the 90% and the 90% became the 10%. So our marriage was very problematic, somewhat focused around the fact that I wanted to wait to have children, he wanted children right away. We didn't have those important conversations.

So then the 10% became the 90% and the 90% became the 10%. So our marriage was very problematic, somewhat focused around the fact that I wanted to wait to have children, he wanted children right away. We didn't have those important conversations.

So then the 10% became the 90% and the 90% became the 10%. So our marriage was very problematic, somewhat focused around the fact that I wanted to wait to have children, he wanted children right away. We didn't have those important conversations.

And he started to do this thing where if he were upset with me, he would completely withdraw and completely shut down, which was a humongous trigger for me. And he did it a little bit before we got married. And there was something very... Ja. Ja. Ja.

And he started to do this thing where if he were upset with me, he would completely withdraw and completely shut down, which was a humongous trigger for me. And he did it a little bit before we got married. And there was something very... Ja. Ja. Ja.

And he started to do this thing where if he were upset with me, he would completely withdraw and completely shut down, which was a humongous trigger for me. And he did it a little bit before we got married. And there was something very... Ja. Ja. Ja.

Ja.

Ja.

Ja.

Well, when that happened, I became obsessed with two things. One, how am I going to get myself out of this hole? How am I going to get myself off the ground? Yes. And two, what makes a relationship work? Because I could not believe... I mean, now looking back, I can understand it. But at the time, I could not believe that I was 40 and... ein Verheiratetsein zu bekommen. Und das war mein Destinat.

Well, when that happened, I became obsessed with two things. One, how am I going to get myself out of this hole? How am I going to get myself off the ground? Yes. And two, what makes a relationship work? Because I could not believe... I mean, now looking back, I can understand it. But at the time, I could not believe that I was 40 and... ein Verheiratetsein zu bekommen. Und das war mein Destinat.

Well, when that happened, I became obsessed with two things. One, how am I going to get myself out of this hole? How am I going to get myself off the ground? Yes. And two, what makes a relationship work? Because I could not believe... I mean, now looking back, I can understand it. But at the time, I could not believe that I was 40 and... ein Verheiratetsein zu bekommen. Und das war mein Destinat.

Das ist, wie ich es gedacht habe.

Das ist, wie ich es gedacht habe.

Das ist, wie ich es gedacht habe.

Und ich konnte nicht glauben, dass ich in dieser Position war. Ich war seit vielen Jahren ein Yogi. Ich habe mich für matur gezeichnet. Ich habe mich für selbstbewusst gezeichnet. Und es war schockierend für mich. Und ich dachte, ich muss das herausfinden. Ich muss das herausfinden. Und es wurde eine Obsession.