Jillian Turecki
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1,450 appearances
11 recordings
9 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Apr 2025
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We want to, everyone is kind of drawn to a similar level of consciousness. So if you really are more integrated, you know, you've got your stuff and you've got your wounds, but you're generally, you're more integrated person. Like you're connected to your heart because most people live inside their heads.
And it's really quite rare these days to find someone who lives more inside their hearts and is truly emotionally available. I think we have a little bit of an epidemic of people in here and emotionally unavailable. And I'm seeing that a lot in people who are dating. It's like no one's emotionally available. It's like, yeah, we're really struggling.
There are some people, this is taking it full circle to your first question about investment. There are some people who are going to be emotionally unavailable to you because they're actually not that into you. They might be attracted to you. They may want to have sex with you. They might think that you're like, you know, cute, lovely, fun, convenient.
But they're not emotionally available to you because they don't feel emotionally bonded to you. So they're actually not that interested. Then there are people who... have real psychological and emotional barriers to closeness and to openness. They live in here. They're psychoanalyzing everything. They have a lot of walls up. Maybe they have a lot of relationship trauma.
They were hurt in the past, so the walls are up. And they want to be discerning, but really, no one can really get through to them. Some people, they grew up in a home where they didn't talk a lot about emotions. And so that's very difficult for them. But there's a difference between someone who's really present with your emotions and maybe is difficulty emoting themselves, but they're trying.
Like you give them that feedback and they're trying. That's very different than someone who's just not emotionally reachable and you just, you can never go deep with them. And every time you want, like, you know, you're with someone who's either not into or emotionally unavailable when you're seeing them for a few weeks and you're like, okay, I want to take this a little bit deeper.
I want to talk about deeper stuff. I want to share. I want to be vulnerable. They're not vulnerable. They're not willing to be vulnerable with you. And they're not particularly receptive to your vulnerability.
What relationship should be investing in or the people in it?
Okay. That's a great question.
That's a great question.
Learning how to communicate better. So that might mean just buying some books on communication.
Every tool needs to be put to use. So none of these things are going to, you know, you have to practice. You have to learn the communication skills and put them into practice.
Better listening. Starts always with being a better listener. Talking less, listening more.
Number two, understanding that we don't just communicate with our words. We communicate with our body language. We communicate non-verbally all the time. So being attuned to really paying attention to what's going on with your partner, even when they're not directly telling you.
Oh, you'd put that at number one. Yeah.
In all forms.
Yeah, all of that.
You know, you want to be a great partner. Master your partner. You want to be a great person in a relationship? Master your partner. Know their emotional highs and lows. Know their triggers. Know if they're menstruating. Know when that time of the month is and what that means to them emotionally. No, become a master of your partner and two people who are doing that.
And what that means is you are so a master, not a master over them, but you are, they are like, they are a piece of art that you have really, that you understand like the back of your hand.
Yeah, you paid attention. So you're so attuned to your partner that when they're sad, you know it. When they're happy, you know it. When they're communicating to you non-verbally, like, hey, everything okay here? Like, you know them. You know what they love. You know what they hate. You know what makes them happy. You know what makes them miserable.
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