Jillian Turecki
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1,450 appearances
11 recordings
9 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Apr 2025
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If you don't know these things about your partner, you know what their needs are. You know exactly what they need to feel loved. You know what they need to feel safe. You know what they need... to feel important. People get into relationships and they don't study each other and know each other.
I mean, the amount of times I've worked with couples where they didn't know what the other person needed. And yes, there is, again, paradox. We have to say what it is that we need. We can't expect mind. But we also have to be interested in what the other person needs. We have to be curious.
OK, so the third tool is so those are the communication to learn the communication. It could be therapy. It could be couples work, you know, and maybe it's not maybe it's not the classic traditional couples work. Maybe you do some, I don't know, a tantra workshop together, you know, anything that's going to bond you in some way. So I think tools where you're doing some couples work together.
Maybe it's doing a workshop together. Maybe it's doing a trip together. Maybe it's anything that's going to deepen your bond and take it to another level. Really, really, really important.
Yeah. So you have to keep mastering them.
Uh-huh. Well, then you get what you tolerate in life. Then your relationship will be maybe good. If you want it, great. These are the things you got to do. It's really your choice. It's your choice. Our lives are based on the decisions that we make. No one, we're not guaranteed the relationship that we want. No one owes you a great relationship. It's based on the choices that we make.
You can be a great person who's also, you could be the perfect catch. You're not owed the relationship. You have to make the right choices to make a relationship strong and wonderful. And you think of that as too much work. I don't know. I'd be curious to know how they approach the rest of their lives if they think that way. You know it's a lot of work staying up at night arguing.
Yeah, you know it's a lot of work waking up in the morning anxious and feeling so disconnected from your partner. You know it's a lot of work trying to change your partner. You know it's a lot of work trying to be enough for your partner constantly because they don't ever acknowledge you. To me, that's exhausting. The other stuff, fun.
I am.
Yes.
Yeah.
I don't have a scarcity mindset I have in the past. I don't anymore. It's like the older I get, the less fearful I become with scarcity.
Yeah, I just don't really think about it.
It's really weird. And that's why I like to help women like not put so much energy into, I want you to want a relationship. I believe in relationships. I believe in partnership. I think overall we live longer if we're in a good relationship. But man, is your life going to be cut short if you're in a bad relationship? So I think, you know, but I really, really think that people need to
You can want a relationship and still love your life, not in a relationship. And I think that's very, very important.
then you can be careful because no one will lie to you more than yourself. So be careful that you're not lying to yourself when you're like, you know, I would like a relationship, but then you go into, oh, but it's that story of, oh, it's going to be too difficult. It's going to be so stressful. As long as, you know, You can say, I'm loving my life right now. I really don't need a relationship.
Or I just need little affairs here and there, like little adventures here and there. Just don't lie to yourself. If it's, you know what, someone coming in is just going to be exhausting and blah, blah, blah. And that's because you've associated relationships with pain because of your past. Then you're tethered to an old story that's actually controlling you.
And you are not really the conductor of your own life in that regard. But if it's truly authentic, then stay single.
I'll get to that in a moment. But you first said, like, what's my biggest fear? I think it's the same thing. Like, I was a yoga teacher for many years. And so I got hit on a lot, you know? Yeah, yeah.
As a teacher. Yeah. Yeah. As a teacher.
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