Joe Hudson

What, what is a little deeper about the relationship between making good decisions or making any decision and your relationship to yourself, voice in the head, your emotions.

Yeah.

Yeah, everybody has recency bias.

I guess it's strange because my recency bias, the order of things that I've learned on the show is not always the order of the way that they're published.

So sometimes I'm like fucking Christopher Nolan's tenant and I'm like looping back on something.

But I keep thinking about this Charlie conversation I had and he talks about congruence, just beautiful idea about congruence.

You look at the person that's the victim

their sort of head, heart, and loins are kind of aligned, even if they're miserable and at the mercy of the world, because they're doing the thing that they feel.

It's rough-hewn and uncrafted and unrefined, but it's happening.

Then you move into action, and you're like, well, head, heart, and loins as well.

You would look at like a Trump, a Tate.

around this and you'd think say what you want about them they're fucking fully incongruence like there is no doubt i am doing the thing i'm the best the best ever like you know like fucking hardest guy in the plot whatever it is like they're incongruence but then when you start to move into the open heart thing the valley of despair total white belts yeah like speaking to the fucking you know teacher here but as far as i can see yeah one of the pains that people feel when making that move into living with an open heart yeah is the incongruence starts to come back in

they are uncertain about the stuff that they used to do.

And it's like, I used to get results.

When I just was the asshole, when I was disagreeable without an open heart or as disagreeable, how do you say, like from disposition, not from curation or not from awareness perhaps.

Like unconsciously competent as opposed to consciously competent.

But to go through that, you go through consciously incompetent first.

because you're like, oh, God, I used to have these patterns and these ways of operating, and now I need to work out how to integrate, transcend, and include all of this stuff to get back to the place that I was.

It's like, yeah, but it's not the same as having never left.

To go on this big fuck-off journey, this is the story of Paulo Coelho's The Alchemist, right?