Joe Hudson

The overthinking is that you are trying to avoid a certain emotion, right?

And instead, because we make, whatever, a hundred choices every day, and we never think about them.

But when we start thinking about them, we're scared, and we're scared of a result that might happen, particularly an emotional result that might happen.

If I leave my husband, I might be miserable.

If I leave my...

If I don't go to the convent, I might be miserable.

If I tell my boss the truth, I might get fired, and I'm going to feel like a failure.

If I don't tell my boss the truth, I'm going to feel like I'm inadequate and that I'm not doing my job.

And so we're just trying to avoid an emotion.

And then so we're thinking, thinking, thinking, trying to make sure that we're going to feel the thing that we want to feel.

And when you invite and welcome all your emotions—

All of a sudden, it doesn't really matter.

I can't think of the last time that I machinated on a decision.

It hasn't happened in a year.

Just the way I would make a choice of coming here, I would make a choice of doing this with the business or saying this to a person.

So let, yeah, great.

So let me, let me pull back on a couple of things so that we get a good, first thing is anything.

If you're trying to make a decision, that's a sign of fear.

If you're in black and white binary thinking, that's a sign of fear.

If you think there's a false end, like I have to make the decision or I'm going to lose her.