Joe Hudson

Or if I stay married to her, if I get married to her, oh my God, I'm stuck forever.

There's like a false end.

So just on that level to see that that's not binary, to actually intellectually go, actually, I could stay with her.

I could stay with her like this.

I could say these are the boundaries of our relationship.

There's actually a thousand things that you could do there.

And you can say, I don't have to make a decision.

I can actually just say, I'm scared about this and this and this.

What's going to happen?

I can just take the next most obvious step.

And I could see through that false end that I've created for myself.

You know, even the Tibetans see through their death.

Even the Stoics see through their death so that they can become not scared of death.

So can you see through your false end?

So intellectually, all that stuff can be done.

And if you see any of those things, then you can know fear is at least part of the equation of what you're not.

But let's just talk about your friend as an example.

Your friend is an example.

Probability of about 75%, I can tell you his story.

His story is in his childhood,