John Graham
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
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That uncomfortable feeling of embarrassment, that's what you're afraid of. Not what people will say online, but the feeling. So it's all emotional root. So when you release that emotional root, when you feel through that pain and you release it, you become what I call unbotherable. That's why, like, I'm here sharing all these details because I don't give a rip anymore.
I'm here to share all these vulnerable stories. It doesn't scare me anymore like it would have, you know, years ago. I'm unbothered by this stuff. And so that's really what's going on for everyone out there. It's not a mental belief that you need to change. It's an internal root, emotional roots, depressed issue that's holding you back.
I get asked this a lot of like thinking about my childhood or thinking about that one issue. I haven't found it yet. I haven't found that one thing. And that's actually good news because people don't need to find that one thing or the real root of the moment or the pattern from your childhood or what your parents said to you or your teacher to figure out exactly. And you really, really don't.
And I truly mean that. That's why I'm totally against cognitive therapy. And I know That's pretty bold to stay on here, but it won't get to the root. Digging for that stuff will only create those neural pathways, like I said, that I caused the panic attacks for me digging in the past. But how do you access these emotions to free them? Because everyone wants to know how to do that.
That's the real key. Every single moment in your day that bothers you is a portal. I call these portals to higher potential. This is what I teach. If you're bothered or triggered by something, in that moment, a portal opens, so to speak. Now you have the opportunity to step through, to feel that stuff, to allow it to move through you, to expand.
So if I'm bothered by someone who cut me off in traffic, right, almost an accident, and I get rage and I tense up, in that moment, I can relax, allow it to move through me. There's a couple other things that you can do. If I process that out, that means that whatever was inside of me is released.
That thing that's inside of me, the reason you were bothered by that person cutting you off in traffic isn't because of that driver. It's because of something that happened five years ago, 10 years ago, 30 years ago inside of you. If I'm overwhelmed at the day in my to-do list, it has nothing to do with my to-do list.
It has everything to do with all of the stuff from years past that I'm holding inside of me. So you don't need to figure out, oh, where's this overwhelm coming from? You just need to feel it when it comes up.
Yeah, I know. Initially, I thought it was like a conspiracy theory, like they're suppressing the truth from us. But like, I don't think a lot of people know about this, right? Kids are really, really good at memory. Why? Because they use their imagination. I'm 38 years old, and my imagination is as good as any seven-year-old. That's part of it, is I've cultivated.
It's not that I'm training my imagination, I'm allowing it to come back, because we all have it. It's just an innate ability that we block and say, oh... Be serious, be logical, right? That left brain type of dominance of the world. So a technique, let's talk about memorizing names, which you said you're horrible at. And I was too.
Before I became a memory champion, I was absolutely horrible at names. To memorize something, one of the key things Techniques is to turn that piece of information into something visual, create a story with it and connect it. So with a name, you want to associate that name to someone's face or their body, right? So now let's create a story. I'm going to use Ilana. So when I look at the name Ilana,
I want to turn that into an image or a story. And immediately I think of ill, because it starts with ill, right? Alana. So I imagine maybe that you're ill and you're puking on a, you know, whatever, on a microphone. That sucks. Or on your body. And so here's the thing. It's completely weird and over the top, but that's why it's memorable, because it made you sick.
Or like John. John, people think of like a toilet. It's a name of a toilet right in the U.S., a John, right? So imagine a toilet seat around my neck and you got my name, right? Or you think of your Uncle John with his arm around me like we're friends or whatever. You make that type of connection to remember it.
Yeah, I'll tell you, I'll give you a secret or a real nugget here. And so just to brag here on the names thing, to give you an idea, in the US championship one year, I memorized 229 names and faces in 15 minutes. This is all I got pictures on paper and names. So I was not able to do that initially. This is not a natural thing. Just using the technique I gave you. So there's two ways to do this.
I would say a slow way, which I just gave you the technique. Most people try it this way or the fast way. So the wrong way, the slow way, is left brain. Meaning, okay, I look at Alana. I think of all the possible ones. I could do, okay, ill. I could do Lon, like I know someone named Lonnie. I could do I-L-L, like that's Illinois.
I could do... So what you're doing is you're doing a Google search in your brain. You're looking logically through all the correct... Or the best answer. You're looking for the best answer, right? Think of how many of us wanted to have the right answer, right? Will this work? No. You're judging and you're thinking and you're analyzing. That's really, really slow.
Or I could look at Alana and trust the first thing that comes to me. The instant it downloads in, it's like creativity. It just comes in. And I trust it. So I've trained my brain, I've trained myself to trust the first thing that comes into my mind. And that's how I go fast is I just trust, I trust, I trust, I trust, I trust instead of Google searching through my brain for the best answer.
Oh, yeah. What I taught you with the names is a linking method. I'm connecting the name. I'm creating an image for the name and connecting it to the person, to you. You can do the same thing with vocab words. Think of like foreign languages. The foreign word, the national word, and connecting those two in a story. I give an example like piscina means pool, a swimming pool in Spanish, right?
Piscina. So I always like piscina sounds like Peace or piss, right? Piss, like pissing in a pool. If you imagine pissing in a pool, you got piscina, right? And I'm sorry to offend anyone. I'm not sorry. People should know that in school, like a simple visual story method, a technique to remember vocab or definitions or things. especially like med students, right?
Or just people going through a really hard test. So yeah, it should be in schools. We've tried, many of us who know about this, but the school system, the government's so archaic and dogmatic that they don't change. It's another battle.
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