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Jon Gordon

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
334 total appearances

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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

There's a oneness that flows, that you feel when you feel connected to that person. So I would say relational psychology says that we heal in a loving relationship. So we heal in a loving relationship. But if that relationship is not loving, if that relationship is draining, if that relationship is hurting you, if that relationship is sabotaging you, guess what?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

There's a oneness that flows, that you feel when you feel connected to that person. So I would say relational psychology says that we heal in a loving relationship. So we heal in a loving relationship. But if that relationship is not loving, if that relationship is draining, if that relationship is hurting you, if that relationship is sabotaging you, guess what?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

There's a oneness that flows, that you feel when you feel connected to that person. So I would say relational psychology says that we heal in a loving relationship. So we heal in a loving relationship. But if that relationship is not loving, if that relationship is draining, if that relationship is hurting you, if that relationship is sabotaging you, guess what?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

You can't heal in that relationship. And then you shouldn't be in that relationship. So I would say to people, if this relationship is helping you heal, if you're able to grow in this relationship, and sometimes... Fights along the way are going to be part of that growth process. So we might have a fight today, but overall, we're moving towards growth. We're talking about our issues.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

You can't heal in that relationship. And then you shouldn't be in that relationship. So I would say to people, if this relationship is helping you heal, if you're able to grow in this relationship, and sometimes... Fights along the way are going to be part of that growth process. So we might have a fight today, but overall, we're moving towards growth. We're talking about our issues.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

You can't heal in that relationship. And then you shouldn't be in that relationship. So I would say to people, if this relationship is helping you heal, if you're able to grow in this relationship, and sometimes... Fights along the way are going to be part of that growth process. So we might have a fight today, but overall, we're moving towards growth. We're talking about our issues.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

We're working through our issues. We're trying to get better individually and collectively. And we want to make this work. And we're not the black hole that's sucking up all the energy. And we're not the narcissist that's making the other person feel less than while we try to make ourselves feel better. If there's a give and take, then you stay in that relationship, of course.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

We're working through our issues. We're trying to get better individually and collectively. And we want to make this work. And we're not the black hole that's sucking up all the energy. And we're not the narcissist that's making the other person feel less than while we try to make ourselves feel better. If there's a give and take, then you stay in that relationship, of course.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

We're working through our issues. We're trying to get better individually and collectively. And we want to make this work. And we're not the black hole that's sucking up all the energy. And we're not the narcissist that's making the other person feel less than while we try to make ourselves feel better. If there's a give and take, then you stay in that relationship, of course.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

And the goal is oneness. The thing is, as you said, we're trying to always seek connection. We are designed for oneness. As a result of that, we will often then stay in an unhealthy relationship because we're designed for oneness, just like in work. If you have a work environment that that might be some positive, but some negative. And you don't feel connected to the company.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

And the goal is oneness. The thing is, as you said, we're trying to always seek connection. We are designed for oneness. As a result of that, we will often then stay in an unhealthy relationship because we're designed for oneness, just like in work. If you have a work environment that that might be some positive, but some negative. And you don't feel connected to the company.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

And the goal is oneness. The thing is, as you said, we're trying to always seek connection. We are designed for oneness. As a result of that, we will often then stay in an unhealthy relationship because we're designed for oneness, just like in work. If you have a work environment that that might be some positive, but some negative. And you don't feel connected to the company.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

You then might start sharing and being negative with other people who are negative, and you find your little negative tribe, because you're looking to connect. But now you have a group of negative people that are still looking to connect, but it's done in an unhealthy way. So are we creating health? Are we creating dysfunction? Are we growing and healing?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

You then might start sharing and being negative with other people who are negative, and you find your little negative tribe, because you're looking to connect. But now you have a group of negative people that are still looking to connect, but it's done in an unhealthy way. So are we creating health? Are we creating dysfunction? Are we growing and healing?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

You then might start sharing and being negative with other people who are negative, and you find your little negative tribe, because you're looking to connect. But now you have a group of negative people that are still looking to connect, but it's done in an unhealthy way. So are we creating health? Are we creating dysfunction? Are we growing and healing?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

Or is the wound getting deeper and greater in the relationship? I do believe that in relationships, you know, we all have wounds and you're meant to be in a relationship with someone where you have your wounds and you come together and the goal is to heal your wounds together. And that's not easy. That's why relationships are so hard because we all have wounds, right?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

Or is the wound getting deeper and greater in the relationship? I do believe that in relationships, you know, we all have wounds and you're meant to be in a relationship with someone where you have your wounds and you come together and the goal is to heal your wounds together. And that's not easy. That's why relationships are so hard because we all have wounds, right?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

Or is the wound getting deeper and greater in the relationship? I do believe that in relationships, you know, we all have wounds and you're meant to be in a relationship with someone where you have your wounds and you come together and the goal is to heal your wounds together. And that's not easy. That's why relationships are so hard because we all have wounds, right?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

And we'll have separation because of the wound. What is a wound? But a separation of skin. In the soul, there's a wound of the soul. There's a separation. And the whole point of relationships is to heal the hole in our soul and become whole and become one. And it's that relationship spiritually also with God that we have this hole in our soul.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: The One TRUTH to Elevate Your Mind, Unlock Your Power, & Heal Your Soul with Jon Gordon 15x Best Selling Author & Thought Leader

And we'll have separation because of the wound. What is a wound? But a separation of skin. In the soul, there's a wound of the soul. There's a separation. And the whole point of relationships is to heal the hole in our soul and become whole and become one. And it's that relationship spiritually also with God that we have this hole in our soul.