Jon Gordon
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1,207 appearances
4 recordings
3 series
first heard May 2024
last heard 14 Jul
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Struggling during the year a little bit. Got together, had a heart-to-heart about their fears, the expectations, what the world was looking for, what the world was expecting. Fear of not meeting those expectations, got together, talked it out. From that moment on, they were now one team working together. And then they wind up doing amazing things, win a Super Bowl as a coach and as a quarterback.
So that's the power of those kind of moments of coming together after maybe a fight. But I think what happens so often is you have a bad moment. You have a bad game. You have a bad sales call. What happens with a bad sales call? Okay, you have one bad sales call. You're in a low state of mind. It doesn't go well. You get rejected.
If you're in a low state, now you start going, what's wrong with me? What's happening here? Oh man, my future is gone. I'm going to lose all this business. I'm not going to reach my targets. I'm not going to reach my goals. And all of a sudden you get lower and lower
in your state of mind because you have more clutter, more thought, more revved up thinking, which lowers your state of mind and causes separation. Now let's look at a mind that has a lot of clarity. Let's look at a mind that is a high state of mind. There's less thought. There's less clutter. There's more focus. There's more positivity.
I always draw two circles for people and I do this in the book. Three circles, a thousand dots in one circle, a circle with three dots in the other, which mind will perform at a higher level. The one with the three dots, not the thousand. So that salesperson who made, the call and it didn't go well, who's rejected now has a thousand dots and they're reeling and they think something's wrong.
So now they move into a slump, more fear, more insecurity. The person who that has, that has it happen when they're in a high state and something happens where they get rejected, like, ah, whatever. I'll make the next sale, let's go. Because they're in a high state and they move forward. So it wasn't the rejection, it was their state of mind.
So just understanding this allows you to move forward in a more positive way. And the key is you're on that rollercoaster and you're going down the rollercoaster in a low state. And so often you want to jump off and you want to escape when it's not going well. Or you have revved up thinking and that makes you want to jump off even more. Key is, no, just realize what's happening.
We just got into a fight, not a big deal. The sales call didn't go well. Okay, what can I learn from it? The next one will go great. Stay on the roller coaster. And then what happens is you ride it right back up and you'll experience a high state of mind and more success as a result. It's like the baseball batter goes 0 for 4, 0 for 3, and 0 for 4. Now they're thinking a lot.
Now they have revved up thinking, as I wrote about in the book, and now they think something's wrong, something's broken. Now they're in a slump and it leads to worse and worse in terms of their performance. Same thing with that teenager who has a lot of negative thoughts coming in. All of a sudden they have all these negative thoughts. They think something's wrong with them. something's broken.
And as they learn in the book, there's nothing wrong with them. There's nothing that's broken. They're just in a low state. They have a lot of thoughts. The key is to understand what's going on, to get yourself to a higher state. And the more you do this and understand this, then you're able to overcome it a whole lot faster. And, you know, Heather is someone who you have a, you know, a teenager.
I have, Kids are now 23 and 25 and my son struggled over the years and so did I in the past with depression, anxiety. This is a must read for people who have kids who are struggling because all these kids are having these same experiences and they think something's wrong with them. And this is going to help them realize nothing is wrong.
And having worked with a bunch of kids who are depressed and even suicidal, I shared this with them. All these kids have literally, have literally after just even one teaching have transformed and turned around like a 180 immediately, which has been really powerful to see.
When two people are connected and they're having a conversation, a meaningful conversation, and there's a oneness there, what happens is research shows from heart math, there's actually a synchronization of the hearts. They actually start to synchronize together and two hearts become one. When there's a loving relationship, that's happening as well.
There's a oneness that flows, that you feel when you feel connected to that person. So I would say relational psychology says that we heal in a loving relationship. So we heal in a loving relationship. But if that relationship is not loving, if that relationship is draining, if that relationship is hurting you, if that relationship is sabotaging you, guess what?
You can't heal in that relationship. And then you shouldn't be in that relationship. So I would say to people, if this relationship is helping you heal, if you're able to grow in this relationship, and sometimes... Fights along the way are going to be part of that growth process. So we might have a fight today, but overall, we're moving towards growth. We're talking about our issues.
We're working through our issues. We're trying to get better individually and collectively. And we want to make this work. And we're not the black hole that's sucking up all the energy. And we're not the narcissist that's making the other person feel less than while we try to make ourselves feel better. If there's a give and take, then you stay in that relationship, of course.
And the goal is oneness. The thing is, as you said, we're trying to always seek connection. We are designed for oneness. As a result of that, we will often then stay in an unhealthy relationship because we're designed for oneness, just like in work. If you have a work environment that that might be some positive, but some negative. And you don't feel connected to the company.
You then might start sharing and being negative with other people who are negative, and you find your little negative tribe, because you're looking to connect. But now you have a group of negative people that are still looking to connect, but it's done in an unhealthy way. So are we creating health? Are we creating dysfunction? Are we growing and healing?
Or is the wound getting deeper and greater in the relationship? I do believe that in relationships, you know, we all have wounds and you're meant to be in a relationship with someone where you have your wounds and you come together and the goal is to heal your wounds together. And that's not easy. That's why relationships are so hard because we all have wounds, right?
And we'll have separation because of the wound. What is a wound? But a separation of skin. In the soul, there's a wound of the soul. There's a separation. And the whole point of relationships is to heal the hole in our soul and become whole and become one. And it's that relationship spiritually also with God that we have this hole in our soul.
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