Jon Gordon
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1,207 appearances
4 recordings
3 series
first heard May 2024
last heard 14 Jul
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That's why the narcissist believes... He or she is God or has to be God because they actually don't feel connected to a greater power as a result of that. Same thing with ego. You know, ego is the result of feeling separate. And because you feel separate, the ego arises to give you a sense of power and the same thing happens. Now, here's what's wild about narcissists.
They also suffer in most cases from depression and all the symptoms of people who have mental health disorders. And so when someone has depression or bipolar, they have issues where they feel disconnected, alone, and isolated, and they get depressed. And most narcissists actually suffer from the same symptoms, which proves my theory.
When you go from oneness to separateness, you go from positive to negative. And as you move from positive to negative, you experience more negative thoughts and more feelings of aloneness and isolation and disconnection. It's amazing. If that person could be vulnerable, could share what they're going through, could be made feel like they're part of something greater, something bigger.
If they can find healing and wholeness, which is what the book's all about, they would be completely different. They would act different and they would respond to the world in a different way. And they would actually get people to want to work with them and they wouldn't be such a jerk to people who are working for them.
Oh, you nailed it. I mean, watching the interviews, it was, I failed and I didn't live up to what I was capable of. I was injured and man, it was so frustrating. It wasn't a team rallying around each other and saying, hey, let's do this together. The Miami clearly had cohesiveness. They had togetherness. They had unity. They had oneness. And that's why they had power.
And I talk about that a lot in the book, like a team that is one and connected will outperform a team with more talent that is not connected, that is not one. That's why all my books over the years, power of a positive team, you win in the locker room first. I look back now, I go, oh, that's why they worked.
That's why teams who read them actually won championships because they became more connected, which then leads to more oneness, which leads to more commitment, which leads to more love, which leads to let's perform at a higher level together. So everything you're saying is so true. And Jimmy's that kind of guy. But it also starts with Pat Riley and it starts with Eric Spolster.
I'll never forget years ago, Eric reached out to me and said, John, come work with our staff. Come speak to our staff. He goes, we want to be a stronger staff together. be more united, more connected, more committed together so we can better serve our players. I just love that.
He wanted to be stronger as a leadership team because the team that's not connected at the top will crumble at the bottom. We want to be a stronger leadership team so we can better serve our players. What a mindset. And now you have guys like Jimmy who become part of that culture. So that culture...
that you create determines the behaviors, the values, the habits, and the essence of what you're living every day as a team or as an organization. And now you find people that fit that culture. Jimmy does, their players do, and then they start working together. And you see guys who aren't drafted, but then rise up to perform at a higher level.
Guys who pick each other up when they're not playing well, supporting each other. And it's like poetry, right? It's like magic. It's like watching a flock of seagulls or a flock of birds flying together. And you start to see this motion happening. And it really is beautiful. It's like the Warriors when they were playing at their best together. They were like that.
You see it with teams talking to the baseball manager today. He's like, we have a group of guys that are all moving in the right direction. They're all supporting each other. We don't have anybody who's sabotaging our team. One person can't make a team, but one person could break a team. So you get that one person. who is actually creating disconnection.
That one person could actually sabotage a team. So yeah, I love that you saw that. And I'm a huge Heat fan as well, having worked with the organization and knowing how they do things and knowing that it's always about the oneness they create. Working with Clemson football and Dabo Sweeney, he read the book and he said, you know, that's my mission as a coach is to create oneness of mission
oneness of purpose, oneness of execution, and getting the team to be one team who is working together. I love that.
Well, I remember that. And that was actually part of their culture and who they are. They're going to have confrontations at times, but that doesn't mean they weren't connected as a team. Here's the deal. When you have a low state of mind in that moment, And you're a coach and your player has a low state of mind and you both have low states of mind together. That's never a good thing.
It usually reaches and leads to a fight when you're in a low state of mind as a parent and your son's in a low state of mind. How does that go? It doesn't go so well. Right. But if you're in a high state and he's having a meltdown, you're like, Hey, calm down. I got this. Let's go. Let's figure this out. But when he's in a low state and you're in a low state, you're both crying.
And so, and I'm speaking from experience because I've been there with my kids. Right.
So think about that. You're in a low state. He was in a low state and it didn't go well, but it's never the circumstance. It's our state of mind. And that's a big part of the book. When you understand this, that is a game changer because in one moment you have a high state, you're fine. The circumstance happens and you rise above it.
When you're in a low state, same circumstance happens and you don't. handle it well, and you wind up fighting. So this happens all the time. And the key is to understand high state of mind, low state of mind, and understand it's never the circumstance. It's our state of mind that moment. So when Eric and Jimmy were going at it, they were just both in a low state at that time.
It didn't mean anything was really wrong. They had a little bit of an outburst. I'm sure they got together. You have an honest conversation. You have a transparent conversation. You have a meaningful conversation. And then from there, you find greater connection. And then you walk away as one team. I had a coach and a Super Bowl incredible player quarterback, right?
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