Jonathan Fields

No kidding.

Wow.

I would be so busted.

So how do you know, or what do you mean by the phrase that the attraction builds?

So when you look at the dream list that somebody has, these are all the features.

And then you look at the elevator list.

Do you often see high levels of crossover or very low levels of crossover?

Yeah.

So if I'm hearing it correctly, part of what you're saying is that when we start with the deeper aspects, the qualities that we know have over time really been nourishing to us in other people.

And if we search for that in a potential partner.

that sometimes the physical attraction can come second.

It kind of follows that, but that's not the popular lore.

The popular lore is it starts with a, I see you across the room, something inside me biologically lights up,

And then from there, so we start out in a physical thing and then from there we grow to appreciate each other on these different levels.

And what you're offering up, if I understand this correctly, is that actually it is possible to reverse that.

Hmm.

So you described what the top qualities were on the dream list.

Do you see similar patterns across now thousands of people on the elevator list?

Is there like a top one, two, and three, which just recur all the time?

Hmm.