Jonathan Goldstein

What do you say if someone asks you, are you okay?

Do you say not at all or do you say yes?

Did you tell them that?

No, no, please, please.

Yeah.

Anyway.

I don't know if this is a quick story, but I feel like I kind of felt like I got the license to think about it in that way from a story, a heavyweight story.

It was about this woman who

Was in her 40s and felt like her life had kind of gone off track because her foster mother didn't allow her to stay with basketball because her grades weren't good enough.

And she felt like her life would have been better if she could have pursued basketball.

She would have gotten a scholarship.

And so we went and found this foster mother who she hadn't spoken to in years, who is now this 94-year-old woman, to ask her why.

Why didn't she allow her to pursue basketball when she saw it was her one passion?

And this woman was a tough old bird.

Like, it would have been so easy to say, oh, I'm sorry.

And, like, she just wouldn't.

And she had had a hard life herself.

And I felt like it was almost like she was unclear on the concept of regret.

You know what I mean?

And I was trying to explain it to her.