Jonathan Pokluda
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first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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Yeah, I think it is about the same thing. So courting was when you would really pursue a woman through her father. And so you would talk to her dad, you would spend time together in the living room. So a lot of times I think we play some word games as Christians, like courting, dating, you know, we just put some parameters around it.
But really with the invention of the automobile, like the car, because when you couldn't drive, it was just like if you wanted to see, you know, pursue a woman, you'd have to go to her house, you'd have to talk to her parents, and then you'd really spend time together there. It wasn't really in the backseat of the movies.
I mean, a lot of times you're sitting on the front porch where everyone could look in on that relationship. There was an authenticity and a transparency to it. But that's all gone away because now we're, And then with the birth of technology, even, a lot of dating happens through FaceTime and Tinder and whatnot.
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You can't determine obedience by the outcome. So I, I don't always like as Christians to go to use others as examples. I just, I think about the biblical texts and how does the scripture inform our behavior here? And so Monica and I dated for three years. Uh, we got married. Um, it was great for a year. It was really hard year two.
We almost got divorced and then community came in our lives and we have an amazing marriage. We're over, over 20 years now, three kids. And I would say we dated too long. I don't think that our biology was made and designed to spend time with someone that we really, really like and we're physically attracted to. I mean, we're basically just restraining our bodies in ways that we weren't meant to.
And then you get married and you stand in front of your friends and family and you're like, for rich or poor, sickness and health, till death do us part, I do. And now you're like, you have to tell your body, but hey, all that stuff I've been telling you, no, no, no, no, no, now it's okay. And some people really struggle with the flipping of that switch.
And so I'm just not like the biggest fan of the way that we date today. Um, I'm much, I'm a much bigger fan of like short dating, but the problem with that is a lot of people don't have the maturity that is required for marriage.
And so I, I, I like literally didn't have this thought till right now, but I'm so passionate about this that I've invested in, uh, um, a matchmaking site, qualified date.com. And so shout out, I didn't come on here to talk about that. It didn't even cross my mind till right now. No, no.
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Yeah. So so lit. Yeah. So it's it's it's like and people are like, oh, you know, you're a pastor. You're trying to get rich. Listen, I've made zero dollars on this zero and won't for a very, very long time, possibly ever. It is a passion project because I look at the landscape of the world and I'm just like, man, we are doing this so wrong and people are so unhappy.
And I think if we prioritize the things that God prioritized, that we would be set up for much more success. And they say, well, how do you know? Listen, I've done lots of marriages before. I served in, and I mean this with humility, but the largest young adult ministry in America at least. And what that meant is maybe I've done more weddings as anyone my age or as many have.
I've done a lot of weddings. I don't know how to say that.
so I've seen the ones that work I've seen the relationships that work I've seen the ones that don't I see what people are doing so that's the experience I'm bringing to the table I don't have a dog in the fight I'm not trying to like rock your world or mess you up I want anyone listening to be healthy and happy and have a thriving relationship with Jesus first and
And then if they desire marriage, a thriving marriage. And if you don't want marriage, a thriving single life. Like you can be an amazing follower of Jesus and single. It's not Lesser Than, it's not JV. It's awesome. Jesus was single, Paul was single. But if you desire marriage, I want you to find marriage in a way that's God honoring. And that's why we did that website.
Yeah, yeah, soulmate.
It's fascinating. Soulmate comes from Greek mythology. And it was this belief that Zeus had cut people in half. And that literally like half your soul is around there and you have to find them. And it's a rather hopeless idea to... Because you're like trying to find the needle in the haystack amongst 8 billion people in the world. Like you've got to find that one person.
And I would say that a biblical perspective on this is that you could be really happy with hundreds of thousands of people of the opposite sex.
that were born in some window around when you were, and you loved Jesus and they loved Jesus, and together, y'all could be a great ministry partner, and really learn to enjoy each other, and really learn to serve each other, and really learn to sacrifice for each other.
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