Jonathan Pokluda
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first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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And so if I apply first Corinthians six, then I'm just thinking, Hey, if, when, when my bio biology begins to say, okay, Hey, it's like the way that God made me is brilliant design. You know, the way that God made us to literally create life is like when my body begins to prepare to create life, like I've gone too far. Likewise with, with a female.
Because we idolize pleasure and sex feels good in most cases. And it's the highest high we can get apart from drugs. And so the dopamine levels and the endorphins that are released during orgasm are among the highest that you can realize naturally. Your body can release endorphins on a run. You call it runner's high. or during a workout or when you get really great news, that kind of things.
But the serotonin levels, the endorphin levels that are released during intimacy are the highest that you can naturally experience. And we're constantly, it's the same reason, it's like why does anybody do crystal meth? Like have you seen? It seems like people get really stuck doing crystal meth. It must feel really good because then they can't not do it.
Well it's the same, it's true with sex outside of marriage. On an erotic scale of 1 to 10, sex outside of marriage is an 11. Now, people who have saved themselves are like, well, wait, what am I missing out on? And I'm like, you're missing out on something really addictive. You know what else would be a high erotic scale? Sex with your neighbor or spouse. It's because there's a danger factor.
So life isn't about let me go and try to experience the most amount of pleasure I can. Life is really about restraint and learning to enjoy the pursuit of holiness. a nearness to God. That's what's lost, I think, in our culture today. He says, be holy because I am holy. And so what does it look like for me to be sanctified?
1 Thessalonians 4, this is God's will for you, that you would be sanctified, that you would avoid sexual immorality. He says, you want to know the will of God, that you would grow in godliness and that you would avoid sexual immorality. That's what he says.
This is God's will for you.
Yeah, man. So it's like the Hebrew word dode, this mingling of souls. Matt Chandler writes about this.
it's it's it's so different than what you think as a single person i'll just say speak first person very different than what i thought of as a single person selfless service so as as a like we often when we think about intimacy we think what can i get what pleasure can i experience but it's really an act of giving
you know how can I how can I serve my lover and and make sure that she is cared for and she feels safe and protected and um and and uh you know I'm gentle and I'm not trying to be weird now I know that people are going to take that out of context and make a meme about me but
i wasn't trying to be weird either asking it but i know people at people genuinely are like yeah giving likes like selflessness uh i always tell like single friends i'm like don't live alone like if you desire marriage don't live alone because idiosyncrasies grow in isolation and um and marriage is really a long act of selflessly serving somebody for the rest of your life
And it's beautiful and it's great and it's awesome. Um, and it, but it's hard and it's work and, um, and there's some real challenges there. And so one of the best ways to prepare for marriage is have roommates, dysfunctional roommates that don't do the dishes, you know, those kinds of roommates that will prepare you for marriage.
Sure. And how? Yeah, I think when you have no regard for your spouse's safety, when you try to bring in images outside the marriage, and so some people are like, oh, well, we'll look at porn together. It's like that is... That is so sinful and evil and Satan receives it as worship. Satan receives pornography as worship. You can quote me on that. Yeah, I don't mean to be prideful when I say that.
I've been so personally hurt by pornography. I brought so much pain on myself and others with that that I think the enemy is glorified in it. If you push your spouse to do something that they're not comfortable doing, it's not a sales pitch. It's a time of serving them and caring for them. And that's really what I mean.
I think so often there's so many husbands that wanna live out all their pornographic fantasies in marriage and that's not what it's about. It's about serving your spouse.
If that makes sense. What do you mean by power?
Yeah, I would just say, if you're not a follower of Jesus, I'm not here to give you dating lessons. Find Jesus and pursue Him. Figure out if He's true. I'm not looking to change your behavior, but to influence your belief. If you are a follower of Jesus, I think what dating looks like is really a sweet friendship of a guy and a man and a woman saying, hey, let's pursue Christ together.
Tommy Nelson talks about it like you're running a race. And it's like, man, I'm just pursuing Jesus. I'm running hard after Jesus. I'm running for Jesus. I'm going on this mission trip. I'm serving at my church. I'm I'm going to church on Sundays. I'm going to recovery night, discipleship night. I'm serving, I'm doing these things.
And as I'm running this race, I look beside me and I notice that, man, there's this woman beside me often as I'm running this race. She's running hard after Jesus too. And at some point, I'm like, hey, do you want to continue to run with me? You want to keep running this race together for the rest of our lives? You do? Okay, great. And I think that's dating into marriage.
What it looks like is you're just, you're the greatest lover of your soul is Jesus Christ. You're pursuing him and you guys are pursuing him together. And when you realize like, Hey, I like pursuing this guy. You like pursuing this guy. Let's pursue this guy together. That that's, that's what dating looks like. And so if we learn from Hollywood, it's like, Oh my gosh, you're amazing. You're hot.
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