Julia Dhar

The example I always think of with self-efficacy is somebody who's trying to quit drinking, right?

And if you go into the pub or you go into the bar and you already are thinking, well, if I want to have a drink, I can't say no or like...

Will I be able to say no?

Will I be able to not do that?

Will I be able to cope with not drinking tonight?

And you don't have any backup plan.

You have no belief that you'll be able to, like you've kind of already lost.

And that's the same with any kind of behavioral change, right?

If you already are counting yourself out, if you're already like letting kind of doubt seep in,

I think that shows that self-efficacy kind of needs strengthening.

It needs a boost.

And as soon as you've started this negotiation with yourself of, exactly, perhaps I will just have one or I'll wait for someone to ask me, you're not taking a second to remind yourself, you know, I've done a lot of difficult things before.

I have overcome a lot of obstacles before.

And if I can spend a moment bringing those to the forefront of my mind, perhaps even writing them down or talking to someone about them, both of which we know make a really big difference in your goal attainment.

But even if I can just remind myself mentally, I've overcome very difficult things before.

Our chance of success goes way up.

I love that.

We talk about that a lot.

I think you actually talk about it in your book.

Was it like an early win?