Julia Dhar

Exactly.

The idea that you can, in very positive ways, trick yourself into change is extremely compelling to me.

And a couple of really easy tricks.

One is just reminding yourself of hard things that you have done before.

Or, for example, you're thinking about how might I...

exercise much more regularly, let's say that you're still in your home and you've got as far as putting your shoes on, even just saying to yourself, well, I'm 20% of the way there now.

I've got my shoes on.

I've got a podcast queued up.

I'm about to walk out the door.

I'm basically more or less done.

We call that the endowed progress effect.

You have an amount of progress that you've already achieved.

All of these actually are just the tiniest of little nudges that move you towards becoming the person you want to be.

Yeah, I love these.

I really want to talk about those in a second, a little bit more.

But something that I've obviously skipped over is why do we even end up in these places?

Why do we end up with a habit that is making us unhappy and making us suffer?

Whether that is like, why do I end up in the habit of being with people who aren't nice to me, even though I know the outcome?

Why do I end up in the habit of drinking too much even though I know I feel bad or, you know, not committing to things even though I know that they're going to make me feel better?

Can you kind of explain how we end up at this point where we know we need behavioral change but now we're struggling to do it?