Julia Dhar

And I think they've done amazing, amazing studies where it is so much easier to

It's so much harder to say don't eat the marshmallow or don't do the thing than say opt into doing something, opt into like do this activity instead of eating the marshmallow or like think about the habit or think about behavioral change as something that is like a gift or an addition to your life rather than just like, oh, I have to spend the rest of my life not drinking.

I have to spend the rest of my life not eating carbs.

That's a terrible word.

habit example but like I have to spend the rest of my life depriving myself of something in order to be happy it's like or you get to spend the rest of your life you know oh today's the day I get to wake up and like my lungs feel even better today's the day that I get to wake up and try a new mocktail today's the day I get to wake up and like really nourish my body in like a way that feels so fruitful I feel like that's such a good behavioral shift and that's what I'm hearing you kind of say right

I like the idea of having an inner debate with yourself.

But the really positive form of the question is, what's in it for me?

What's in it for me?

Why would I even do this?

And the more you can start to say to yourself, oh, I know what's in it for me.

And it is all those examples that you just gave and probably many more for people.

You get to remind yourself that there are

Benefits that are coming.

Even better is if you can remind yourself of benefits that are here already.

I've saved money.

I got to have a conversation with someone that I'm trying to repair a relationship with, for example.

I

tried a workout dance class and fell down.

But I also fell down in front of a lot of people and I did not die of embarrassment.

Like I have learned something new and positive about myself.