Karen Doherty

Yeah.

Yeah.

ND, just ND, both sides. Both sides, that boom or bust is very pertinent. And I think we talked about this in the last chat, didn't we, about that incredibly passionate, overwhelming need to merge at the beginning of these relationships and the sort of indiscriminate merging because it's just, oh, I've met my soulmate, this is it, we are, this is it, we are going to be together.

ND, just ND, both sides. Both sides, that boom or bust is very pertinent. And I think we talked about this in the last chat, didn't we, about that incredibly passionate, overwhelming need to merge at the beginning of these relationships and the sort of indiscriminate merging because it's just, oh, I've met my soulmate, this is it, we are, this is it, we are going to be together.

And that very, very... interesting mix of chemicals endorphins everything that goes off and we know nd is particularly sensitive to all of those changes all of those hormonal changes chemical changes so it's even more intense for the nd but i think i argued i think i argued as well the last time i was here that it's equally as intense for the partner

And that very, very... interesting mix of chemicals endorphins everything that goes off and we know nd is particularly sensitive to all of those changes all of those hormonal changes chemical changes so it's even more intense for the nd but i think i argued i think i argued as well the last time i was here that it's equally as intense for the partner

The partner gets into that for their own reasons. There's a couple fit that goes with that. Um, and how do you know whether any relationship, how do you know whether it's going to last or not? How would you know? You don't. You don't, you know, it's very hit and miss, isn't it? Three months, four months. Okay. That might be. Yeah. All right. So we'll carry on. Um,

The partner gets into that for their own reasons. There's a couple fit that goes with that. Um, and how do you know whether any relationship, how do you know whether it's going to last or not? How would you know? You don't. You don't, you know, it's very hit and miss, isn't it? Three months, four months. Okay. That might be. Yeah. All right. So we'll carry on. Um,

Generally speaking, generally speaking, if it's the right thing, people don't bust. They don't if it's the right thing. I think you might be also talking about something later on where the relationship starts to be taken for granted and it's a bit more obvious from the ND's point of view in that they can often become hyperfixated on other things and forget the couple.

Generally speaking, generally speaking, if it's the right thing, people don't bust. They don't if it's the right thing. I think you might be also talking about something later on where the relationship starts to be taken for granted and it's a bit more obvious from the ND's point of view in that they can often become hyperfixated on other things and forget the couple.

Yes.

Yes.

almost essential for that adhd person to to a be aware oh definitely of this boom and bust cycle and to be somehow put something in place to sort of ration their interest and actions that's never going to happen and you can't you can't ration that for that that first bloom you can't ration that i think i think awareness i think actually knowing that this might be a pattern in your life that you do get a little bit over over over involved it's very interesting that you bring this subject up because

almost essential for that adhd person to to a be aware oh definitely of this boom and bust cycle and to be somehow put something in place to sort of ration their interest and actions that's never going to happen and you can't you can't ration that for that that first bloom you can't ration that i think i think awareness i think actually knowing that this might be a pattern in your life that you do get a little bit over over over involved it's very interesting that you bring this subject up because

So many clients have got together really quickly. Now, they haven't all bust, obviously, but so many clients actually did get together and were living together within the first six months or they'd had children within the first two years. They've got together very quickly. It is a feature of these relationships.

So many clients have got together really quickly. Now, they haven't all bust, obviously, but so many clients actually did get together and were living together within the first six months or they'd had children within the first two years. They've got together very quickly. It is a feature of these relationships.

It's hugely confusing for a more NT, a more NT partner, hugely confusing. And I think it's very well documented this, that sometimes after the marriage, the interest goes. You know, they are the focus of their partner's

It's hugely confusing for a more NT, a more NT partner, hugely confusing. And I think it's very well documented this, that sometimes after the marriage, the interest goes. You know, they are the focus of their partner's

all for so long then they've got married and actually it's all it's all changed it's all different it's it's sort of established now so there doesn't need to be all that interest and it's lost its it's lost its uh interest as that bright new shiny thing so yeah it can be very it can be very uh difficult for the partner on the receiving end of that sort of pulling back withdrawing

all for so long then they've got married and actually it's all it's all changed it's all different it's it's sort of established now so there doesn't need to be all that interest and it's lost its it's lost its uh interest as that bright new shiny thing so yeah it can be very it can be very uh difficult for the partner on the receiving end of that sort of pulling back withdrawing