Kat Van Buren

I need help getting over a blindsiding breakup via text.

I'm 36.

He's 39 with two kids.

We dated six months.

I think Kat and I collectively could just say one word for you.

loser like he broke up with you via text and y'all been dating six months how do you get over it we'll know that you've been spared yeah because his loser behavior was going to continue and you're you should be thankful to be out of that relationship which i feel like a lot of times people say that like you've dodged a bullet and stuff like that it's hard to see that in the moment when you're really sad i know

And so I wonder if she's looking back on this relationship with what I like to call rosy retrospect, where you see all the good things, but you're not seeing the reality a lot of times.

And so maybe, you know, do some fact-checking of yourself and see what the relationship was really like and if there were other red flags that maybe you ignored because you liked this guy or whatever reason.

Because it would be shocking to me if this guy was...

knight in shining armor and then broke up with you over a text yeah something would be imagine really off yeah i would imagine there's other communication issues or thoughtlessness carelessness that's a very careless thoughtless thing to do ghosting have you been dumped it dumped i almost said dumped it have you been dumped by a text no huh haven't but i mean i was

I mean, as adults, I guess in my limited dating that I've done in the last few years, I maybe could have been dumped via text.

I did get blindsided that I thought I was a little more exclusive with someone that I wasn't.

Oh, no.

So then I found that out.

What was the awakening?

My friend called me and said, are you still going out with so-and-so?

And I said, yeah.

And she said, well, I'm at dinner with somebody who has a date with him tomorrow.

And I was like, cool.

I didn't know how he had time to date other people.