Katherine Morgan Schafler

Well, there's no resting jerk face, right? For a reason, because women are expected to be palatable and pleasing all the time. And when they display a neutral facial expression, there's a punishment for that. And it's kind of jokey jokey. You know, no one's really being punished, but it's not really jokey jokey.

You know, like, there's no name for that for men because the message is like, you're not supposed to, you don't need to be that all the time. And so perfectionist is like, let me, let me like blow the whistle on this term. If you're an ambitious woman seeking power. Don't allow yourself to be called a perfectionist in a kind of derogatory way. And don't do that to yourself either.

You know, like, there's no name for that for men because the message is like, you're not supposed to, you don't need to be that all the time. And so perfectionist is like, let me, let me like blow the whistle on this term. If you're an ambitious woman seeking power. Don't allow yourself to be called a perfectionist in a kind of derogatory way. And don't do that to yourself either.

You know, like, there's no name for that for men because the message is like, you're not supposed to, you don't need to be that all the time. And so perfectionist is like, let me, let me like blow the whistle on this term. If you're an ambitious woman seeking power. Don't allow yourself to be called a perfectionist in a kind of derogatory way. And don't do that to yourself either.

You have a vision. It's important to you. You want it executed in a certain way. That's okay.

You have a vision. It's important to you. You want it executed in a certain way. That's okay.

You have a vision. It's important to you. You want it executed in a certain way. That's okay.

I describe five types of perfectionists in the Perfectionist Guide to Losing Control. And one of them is the Parisian perfectionist. And that's someone, all perfectionists are seeking an ideal. And the Parisian perfectionist is seeking ideal connections with other people.

I describe five types of perfectionists in the Perfectionist Guide to Losing Control. And one of them is the Parisian perfectionist. And that's someone, all perfectionists are seeking an ideal. And the Parisian perfectionist is seeking ideal connections with other people.

I describe five types of perfectionists in the Perfectionist Guide to Losing Control. And one of them is the Parisian perfectionist. And that's someone, all perfectionists are seeking an ideal. And the Parisian perfectionist is seeking ideal connections with other people.

And there are pros and cons to each type of perfectionist, just like there's pros and cons to the perfectionism, perfectionist construct in general. And I think if you're someone who really

And there are pros and cons to each type of perfectionist, just like there's pros and cons to the perfectionism, perfectionist construct in general. And I think if you're someone who really

And there are pros and cons to each type of perfectionist, just like there's pros and cons to the perfectionism, perfectionist construct in general. And I think if you're someone who really

The pros of being a Parisian perfectionist are like you're naturally warm person, you have empathy pretty easily you can put yourself in someone else's shoes and get a good sense of what they might be feeling you go out of your way to help people feel included right you're naturally inclusive.

The pros of being a Parisian perfectionist are like you're naturally warm person, you have empathy pretty easily you can put yourself in someone else's shoes and get a good sense of what they might be feeling you go out of your way to help people feel included right you're naturally inclusive.

The pros of being a Parisian perfectionist are like you're naturally warm person, you have empathy pretty easily you can put yourself in someone else's shoes and get a good sense of what they might be feeling you go out of your way to help people feel included right you're naturally inclusive.

And the cons of that particular perfectionist profile are like, sometimes you want connection so badly that you try to take shortcuts to it and you people please instead of engaging in authentic connection. And so if you're really good at empathic accuracy, which is you can accurately read the room, right? Whether it's a group of people,

And the cons of that particular perfectionist profile are like, sometimes you want connection so badly that you try to take shortcuts to it and you people please instead of engaging in authentic connection. And so if you're really good at empathic accuracy, which is you can accurately read the room, right? Whether it's a group of people,

And the cons of that particular perfectionist profile are like, sometimes you want connection so badly that you try to take shortcuts to it and you people please instead of engaging in authentic connection. And so if you're really good at empathic accuracy, which is you can accurately read the room, right? Whether it's a group of people,

or one person, you can pretty accurately understand what someone is feeling because you can feel it too. And the colloquial ways we describe empathic accuracy are like feeling someone's eyes on you from across the room, or like you walk into a room, I don't know if this has ever happened to you, and you could just like feel the tension in the room.