Kelly McGonigal

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The School of Greatness · The Real Reason Stress Is Hurting You | Kelly McGonigal · 24 Jul 2026 podcast

This is a very popular view among developmental psychologists and educators to

And I like to put it in some context as well.

So the most important thing for helping children become resilient and thrive is to have a positive relationship with an adult that creates a secure attachment.

So if you're the parent or you're the caregiver, your number one job is to make sure that that child

believes that you will care for them and care about them, and it is not contingent on a whole lot of other things, like that you yourself are managing to be sober one day a week, and that's what it's contingent on, or that your child has to achieve a certain level of success in some domain.

So that is the number one job of a parent, is that secure relationship where a child is confident that you will care for them and about them.

Then if that's in place,

The experience of failure, setbacks, all that stuff is typically positive in a child's development, in part because they know that they're not gonna lose access to the most important thing, the one who cares and loves for them.

Right, and then also, if you cannot protect your child from the suffering you really want to protect them from, you can't change the world, you can't erase whatever the circumstances are,

you know, when you can't fix the world for them or protect them from things that like truly a parent would love to do.

I would love my child to never experience violence.

I'd love my child to never experience heartbreak.

Of course you want that, but you can't control that.

And the research shows that if, if a child has both, um, that caring trusting relationship with adults and some previous experience of moving forward, despite adversity or pain,

then they're so much better prepared to deal with the stuff that you would love to protect them from, but you just can't.

Yeah.

So I know it's called a runner's high, but I'm not a runner.

So I have to get my high from other things.

So what the runner's high is, is it's this reliable change in your brain chemistry that happens when you engage in continuous movement for about 20 minutes or so and like a moderate intensity.

So I always tell people, if you know your heart rate is getting up, you're breathing more deeply or more quickly and you're using some of your muscles, it's probably, it's going to get you to that place.

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