Kelly

All right.

So let's talk about Clara.

She is writing to ask.

So myself, 28-year-old female, and my ex-boyfriend, 32-year-old male, were together for two years and broke up seven months ago.

We were very much in love and both wanted children, but I refused to start a family with someone who was self-medicating with alcohol and not ready to face the traumas in his life or go to therapy.

I broke up with him, but deep in my heart, I have always believed that we would find our way back to each other.

Last month, I heard through friends that he has started going to therapy for the first time and has continued going every week since.

However, last week, I met someone who asked me out on a date.

I have not been on a date since the breakup, and I really want to go, but I'm not sure that it would be fair, both to the new guy and to my ex.

Would I be the problem if I went on the date even though I have a deep desire for my ex to get sober so that we can eventually get back together?

Oh, I don't think she's the problem at all.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Go on the date.

And also, you never know.

You might find that.

Or in her case, what I think we'll have.

It's not even what I thought we had.

Hey, guys.

Love, love your show.