Lauren Kay
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103 appearances
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2 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard May 2025
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It's really nice to be able to cushion yourselves just a little bit so you can feel confident that you are going to stay within budget and that you have that cushion just in case some extra expenses come along the way.
I know, you know, and that's why it's really helpful. I say, you know, relying on these vendors because those are things that like they won't forget about. Right. But you don't think about it until the 11th hour and now you're scrambling and you might be overpaying on the podium. So I think that is another great plug for the beauty of a vendor team.
Yeah. So I think it's important that we all remember that social media is just a highlight reel, right? And there are some of those amazing weddings that take place, but there are plenty of weddings that are done in a more modest fashion. I also think that it's important to think about budgets in a subjective manner. So what can you realistically afford?
You don't want to go into debt over what you hope to put out on Instagram, right? And getting back to that earlier thought where I was joking about the linens, right? When you close your eyes and think about some of the best aren't necessarily the most expensive. I was at a wedding where someone used their escort cards to write personalized notes to everyone at the wedding.
And it was just so magical and very low cost, but high impact. I still remember it and will always remember it. So I think there's a lot of moments where you can say, okay, maybe I don't have the money to do that, but what are the things that I'm going to really leave my guests with? How are they going to walk away from this wedding saying, oh my gosh, that was so authentically them.
And I'll remember it forever for these reasons. So it isn't always about the stuff. It's about the couple. It's about the feeling, the energy, and that doesn't necessarily have to be costly. So don't let the money dysmorphia get you.
Think about the things you really want to prioritize and use your budget thoughtfully towards those things and realize that at the end of the day, you can have a very personalized, authentic celebration that is very memorable to your guests without going over budget.
Absolutely. Yes. And I think that's something that you have to kind of go in with, right? I always say to couples, think of the three priorities that you and your partner can align on and where you want to spend. And then think about all the things you're willing to compromise on because you will have to compromise. You can't splurge on everything.
And as long as you both are aligned and you kind of put it out there early on, then when the blow comes and you do have to compromise, you don't feel so badly about it. You're like, Oh, yeah, I kind of knew that that was going to come up later. So I'm OK with that. We can move on. And I think it just makes you feel better about where you are putting those dollars.
OK, tell me more about the not budget advisor. Yes. OK, so it is such a power tool. It's providing couples with a wedding budget estimate. of what actual couples spend. So this is data derived from real couples who got married, like really recently, not 10 years ago, how much did they spend and how much did they spend on different items at the wedding?
So this is helping people not only to have, you know, data around what the average cost of wedding is. This is the cost of a wedding where you want to get married. So you can really think about the location and you can really think about the costs across the whole map. Because depending on where you get married, it can really impact the cost. So regionality is certainly part of it.
And then prioritizing those vendors. If you and your partner are on the same page, you can use the tool to really help you prioritize your spend based on the moments that you really want to emphasize, whether that's music, food, guest experience. You can also see pricing estimates.
And what I love about this is once you've kind of got your budget in a good place and you're really ready to like pull the trigger, you can actually be connected with vendors in the not vendor marketplace that can help you bring this to life.
So not only are we giving you all this great data to arrive at a realistic number to hopefully keep you in the black and to keep you from going over budget, but then we're willing to partner with these vendors and pair you with people who can really bring that vision to life. And I think that's the big part of it, right?
So not only do you have to align on what you're going to spend and what's realistic, but then you need to meet those people who can realistically offer you flowers at a certain cost or a cake at a certain cost. And I think that's where the magic comes in.
Yes.
So the best part about the tool is it's real data. We have over 20,000 couples who recently got married in these locations who shared with us what they spent. And that is so much more valuable than guesstimating on what you think something might cost. So it's also really helpful, like I said, as a research tool before you do set that big budget number of really researching the cost.
So for her in Harbor, Maine, what's that going to cost? What is a realistic amount to spend or an average spend on a wedding venue? You can also see how much each category impacts your total estimated budget. So you can select or deselect vendor categories in this pie chart. So then you can really see how your money is moving around in real time. And I'm a visual person.
So I am here for the pie chart. I'm not a spreadsheet girly. And I love that you can see kind of the shifts in real time. So again, it's just linking all those pieces and trying to take a lot of the guesswork and a lot of the stressful part of planning and make it totally seamless.
Okay, so I have two. Can I have two? Two savings. All right. So two, first one up bonus. Yeah. So the first one is to prioritize with your partner on the three big things you want to spend on. I think that is such a huge miss not to get on the same page as it goes. So do that with your partner and utilize that to make all your decisions.
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