Leslie John

more complex question that it seems because it's like how therapy has that annoying feature of keeping every question begs more questions, right?

Because it's like, what's your purpose?

You really have to be brutally honest with yourself to come to the realization that, oh, I'm just doing this because I want status or I want to show off, right?

It requires a lot of self-awareness to really be that level of honesty with yourself.

Totally conflict.

And what we found when people do consider these decisions, these really hard decisions, like do you tell your boss that you have ADHD?

Could get accommodation.

You could lose your job.

Do you tell your kids about your partying ways?

Do you tell your spouse about that old fling?

Do you tell your spouse you're disappointed?

All these things are like very unclear whether you should do it or not.

And so often we just default to silence.

We don't even consider doing it.

And then when we do, I found that it's like 90% plus of the time when I do say, okay, think of something that you're considering.

Tell me what you're thinking about.

Tell me what's on your mind.

90% of the things that people think about are the risks of revealing.

They're like, oh, you know, if I speak up at work because someone didn't credit me for an idea, they'll think I'm petty.

It'll ruin the relationship.