Leslie John

And that's all real.

That's totally valid and legit.

But they stop there.

What about the risks of not sharing?

Well, I'm going to ruminate.

Then I'm going to be passive aggressive.

And that's going to be bad for the relationship.

So like zooming out is, I think, a really important part of making better decisions.

I mean, we've shown it in our research that we fixate on the risks of revealing for lots of reasons about how our brains work.

But then if we zoom out, we make different ones.

It doesn't mean everything should be revealed.

For sure not.

But I think we should reveal a little bit more than we think we should most of the time.

Status is tricky.

Workplace is a place of mixed status often.

And that's where we need to be crafty because it's tricky.

And we need to realize that in any given day, we move up and down the status hierarchy.

I mean, when I'm talking to the dean, I'm lower status.

When I'm talking to students, I'm higher status.

So like each person, depending moment to moment, and I think...