Lewis Howes

Yes. That's the bouncer in your mind. I'm here to tell you that when you get intentional about what you want to think about yourself, it changes in real time what your brain lets in and what it doesn't. That helps you with the other things that you're doing. The high five in the mirror, the I'm not thinking about that, the pathetic mantra.

Yes. That's the bouncer in your mind. I'm here to tell you that when you get intentional about what you want to think about yourself, it changes in real time what your brain lets in and what it doesn't. That helps you with the other things that you're doing. The high five in the mirror, the I'm not thinking about that, the pathetic mantra.

Hey, you know, just because I missed the dentist appointment doesn't mean I'm a bad person. I'm doing the best I can here. Give myself a break. High five. You know what I'm saying? Shake it off. Get back in there. It's true, right? Because it's these little things. Somebody cuts you off. Somebody reaches for the last thing of cereal that you wanted to buy at the grocery store.

Hey, you know, just because I missed the dentist appointment doesn't mean I'm a bad person. I'm doing the best I can here. Give myself a break. High five. You know what I'm saying? Shake it off. Get back in there. It's true, right? Because it's these little things. Somebody cuts you off. Somebody reaches for the last thing of cereal that you wanted to buy at the grocery store.

You think it's like a sign that the world's out to get you. This is all your story and your mind skewing the world to prove all of the stuff you keep repeating. And the only way to get a handle on it is to start acting the opposite, like high-five yourself, even though you don't feel like it. Interrupt the crap that you keep saying. Put your hands on your heart and settle your body down.

You think it's like a sign that the world's out to get you. This is all your story and your mind skewing the world to prove all of the stuff you keep repeating. And the only way to get a handle on it is to start acting the opposite, like high-five yourself, even though you don't feel like it. Interrupt the crap that you keep saying. Put your hands on your heart and settle your body down.

All of these things are things that somebody does when they care about themselves, when they think they deserve to be treated with kindness, when they think they deserve support, and when they realize they need it. And when you start to build yourself back up, you'll show up very differently in other relationships.

All of these things are things that somebody does when they care about themselves, when they think they deserve to be treated with kindness, when they think they deserve support, and when they realize they need it. And when you start to build yourself back up, you'll show up very differently in other relationships.

You know, if you tolerate this kind of treatment from yourself, you'll tolerate it from other people. It does begin with you.

You know, if you tolerate this kind of treatment from yourself, you'll tolerate it from other people. It does begin with you.

Correct. Like if you stand in front of the mirror every single morning and you're like, I look like crap. I am not good enough. I'm unhappy with my life. And then you step into a relationship and somebody leaves you on read and they ghost you for three days. Like you come to expect that because that's how you believe you think you deserve to be treated.

Correct. Like if you stand in front of the mirror every single morning and you're like, I look like crap. I am not good enough. I'm unhappy with my life. And then you step into a relationship and somebody leaves you on read and they ghost you for three days. Like you come to expect that because that's how you believe you think you deserve to be treated.

When you stand in front of a mirror and you're like, Hey, you're awesome. We got this. I got you. I know it's hard. We're going to go do this. Or, hey, this is a big day today. I've got this huge presentation. I am going to destroy this. You get into it. You're excited. Then you're creating momentum for yourself.

When you stand in front of a mirror and you're like, Hey, you're awesome. We got this. I got you. I know it's hard. We're going to go do this. Or, hey, this is a big day today. I've got this huge presentation. I am going to destroy this. You get into it. You're excited. Then you're creating momentum for yourself.

Otherwise, what? You're going to stand there and be like, oh, my God, I'm going to screw this up. I'm not prepared. It's like the negative morning routine. Mm-hmm. It leads to negative actions.

Otherwise, what? You're going to stand there and be like, oh, my God, I'm going to screw this up. I'm not prepared. It's like the negative morning routine. Mm-hmm. It leads to negative actions.

So this training thing, training your RES. So here's what I want you to do. Starting tomorrow, after you wake up and make your bed and kind of settle your nervous system and high-five yourself after setting your intention.

So this training thing, training your RES. So here's what I want you to do. Starting tomorrow, after you wake up and make your bed and kind of settle your nervous system and high-five yourself after setting your intention.

So now you're like sending yourself into your morning routine in a totally different way with a calmed down nervous system and intention and this boost of feeling supported and loved and celebrated. I want you... to find one naturally occurring heart shape as you go through your day.

So now you're like sending yourself into your morning routine in a totally different way with a calmed down nervous system and intention and this boost of feeling supported and loved and celebrated. I want you... to find one naturally occurring heart shape as you go through your day.