Lindsey Carnick
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315 appearances
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first heard Feb 2025
last heard Feb 2025
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then they feel really open and at ease to say like, well, I really do think olives are the grossest thing on the planet.
And quite frankly, the last time somebody got an olive anywhere near my pizza, I sent it back to the kitchen because I just can't even have the singular slice of olive on my pizza.
And the other person goes, oh my gosh, you're a nut.
Olives are the nectar of the gods.
And everybody laughs because nobody's afraid that somebody's going to withdraw as opposed to people doubling down and litigating their position and becoming oppositional.
because they fear the death.
Well, yes, so many things.
One would be, I would encourage just on the tails of the last thing we were talking about, I would encourage everybody to take a second and imagine this.
What would it be like if instead of saying to your partner, we need to talk and you guys sit down at the kitchen table, like across from each other and somebody's got a notebook and the lights are dim.
What would it be like if you treated every conversation, no matter how big and hairy the topic, as one that could be had sitting on the floor,
with your knees touching, holding each other's hands with your forehead touching.
Just imagine that for a second.
I'm not saying is it possible, do you believe that's true, any of that.
Imagine what it would be like if you went into every hard conversation with your partner with the assumption that they were one, on your team, two, wanted to meet your needs in addition to getting their own needs met, and three, are going to stay connected to you and that you don't have to fear disconnection.
How would you show up differently if you believed that that is what was going to happen?
And the answer is startling for most people when they imagine how different that would look if they never had another conversation sitting at the kitchen table or whatever your serious conversation spot is, right?
If every conversation had the spirit of no matter how hard this is, no matter how many big feelings I have, no matter how hurt my feelings are,
I trust that you're still on my team and that I can have hurt feelings.
And it doesn't mean that you switch teams.
It means that there was an accident and that you want to help me with that in the same way that when you imagine a beach volleyball competition and once in a while, somebody goes for something and they accidentally like elbow the other person's face.
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