Lisa Bilyeu

So how do you know in that moment that your gut is telling you that that person is the right person, or it's just the toxic pattern that you've had from childhood that says if someone acts like this, it means love?

That's so true. And I don't know if you remember this, but there was something that you taught me that stuck with me to this day. So it was about maybe two years ago. I can't remember what trip we were on together. For everyone at home, we've been on many trips together. And someone had really hurt me. emotionally and had broken my trust.

That's so true. And I don't know if you remember this, but there was something that you taught me that stuck with me to this day. So it was about maybe two years ago. I can't remember what trip we were on together. For everyone at home, we've been on many trips together. And someone had really hurt me. emotionally and had broken my trust.

And I remember turning to you and I was like, Jay, I didn't see it coming. I was like, I trusted them and they backstabbed me. And I remember you looking at me and you're like, OK, so did you have them earn your trust? And my answer was no. And I remember you saying that this was years ago and still to this day, whenever I go to, oh my God, I trust them.

And I remember turning to you and I was like, Jay, I didn't see it coming. I was like, I trusted them and they backstabbed me. And I remember you looking at me and you're like, OK, so did you have them earn your trust? And my answer was no. And I remember you saying that this was years ago and still to this day, whenever I go to, oh my God, I trust them.

The very next thing is you and my head saying, hanging on, but have they earned it? And so I think then in those moments, in that first month of dating, we go off our emotions and the chemicals in our body. But we're made to believe it's love or trust or things like that.

The very next thing is you and my head saying, hanging on, but have they earned it? And so I think then in those moments, in that first month of dating, we go off our emotions and the chemicals in our body. But we're made to believe it's love or trust or things like that.

So where's that line between the values that someone has versus what they say? Because actually, let's go back to relationships and how you cannot fix something. In fact, I've got a Jay Shetty quote. We think we have to fix people, but we have to love them while they fix themselves. So how often do we try to? Why is that detrimental? And why do we keep doing it? Why do we keep trying to fix people?

So where's that line between the values that someone has versus what they say? Because actually, let's go back to relationships and how you cannot fix something. In fact, I've got a Jay Shetty quote. We think we have to fix people, but we have to love them while they fix themselves. So how often do we try to? Why is that detrimental? And why do we keep doing it? Why do we keep trying to fix people?

And he probably just feels worse about it.

And he probably just feels worse about it.

Okay, so what if you're with somebody, so you've got with Radhi, you know she values family, you see it's beautiful, you see how that shows up. What sometimes happens over time though is their value starts to change and they're now no longer that person that got the joy from let's say the family.

Okay, so what if you're with somebody, so you've got with Radhi, you know she values family, you see it's beautiful, you see how that shows up. What sometimes happens over time though is their value starts to change and they're now no longer that person that got the joy from let's say the family.

In those moments, I think we try to fix that person to come back to the person that we first met, that we first fell in love with and going back to the growth thing where it's like you can be on different paths. Sometimes I think someone in a relationship dynamic, one partner is like, hang on a minute, I fell in love with this person. This is the person I may be married.

In those moments, I think we try to fix that person to come back to the person that we first met, that we first fell in love with and going back to the growth thing where it's like you can be on different paths. Sometimes I think someone in a relationship dynamic, one partner is like, hang on a minute, I fell in love with this person. This is the person I may be married.

This is the person that I was with. And now over time, you've changed. How do you start to navigate that without the person feeling bad about that change? So Roddy met you. You just come out of monkhood. I'm not sure what you would call it, but it's monkhood. So you just come out of monkhood and you're coaching, you're teaching. She knows who you are. You're all spiritual.

This is the person that I was with. And now over time, you've changed. How do you start to navigate that without the person feeling bad about that change? So Roddy met you. You just come out of monkhood. I'm not sure what you would call it, but it's monkhood. So you just come out of monkhood and you're coaching, you're teaching. She knows who you are. You're all spiritual.

Let's say 10 years later, you're just an ass. You don't care about work. You don't really care about people. And now she's like, hang on a minute. You're not the person I fell in love with.

Let's say 10 years later, you're just an ass. You don't care about work. You don't really care about people. And now she's like, hang on a minute. You're not the person I fell in love with.

That's such a great breakdown. And I love how you think. Like, I really love how you think because every time I'm like, okay, he's going to answer it like this. You never do. Like the idea of like asking yourself those questions is so important. Like a thousand percent. Because it's on you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think, but...