Logan Urie

And that's definitely not always the case. Some people are just really sparky. And I always think about my friend Archie, where the first few times I met him, I was like, whoa, we really have a connection. And then I talked to my friend who I'd never said that to. And she's like, I feel like Archie and I really have a connection. And I was like, oh, Archie's just really sparky.

It has nothing to do with us. And so some people just are that way. They give that feeling to many people. It's not about your connection. It's about who they are. And then the third one is that if you have a spark, the relationship is viable. And that's also not true. There are couples that I interviewed for my book. who are unhappily together or now divorced, and they met the right way.

It has nothing to do with us. And so some people just are that way. They give that feeling to many people. It's not about your connection. It's about who they are. And then the third one is that if you have a spark, the relationship is viable. And that's also not true. There are couples that I interviewed for my book. who are unhappily together or now divorced, and they met the right way.

It has nothing to do with us. And so some people just are that way. They give that feeling to many people. It's not about your connection. It's about who they are. And then the third one is that if you have a spark, the relationship is viable. And that's also not true. There are couples that I interviewed for my book. who are unhappily together or now divorced, and they met the right way.

They had this romantic we met story, but then the relationship was actually not a good fit, but they were so attached to their origin story that they felt like it could keep them alive. And so the spark is enough to get the relationship going, but it's definitely not enough to keep it going. So what do you want us to know about the spark?

They had this romantic we met story, but then the relationship was actually not a good fit, but they were so attached to their origin story that they felt like it could keep them alive. And so the spark is enough to get the relationship going, but it's definitely not enough to keep it going. So what do you want us to know about the spark?

They had this romantic we met story, but then the relationship was actually not a good fit, but they were so attached to their origin story that they felt like it could keep them alive. And so the spark is enough to get the relationship going, but it's definitely not enough to keep it going. So what do you want us to know about the spark?

Yes. A lot of the best people out there are people who other people overlooked because they don't spark on a first date. They're not particularly extroverted. Maybe they're not the most charming. It takes them time to warm up. But these are such solid, reliable, incredible partners. And I'm not saying go after the boring person.

Yes. A lot of the best people out there are people who other people overlooked because they don't spark on a first date. They're not particularly extroverted. Maybe they're not the most charming. It takes them time to warm up. But these are such solid, reliable, incredible partners. And I'm not saying go after the boring person.

Yes. A lot of the best people out there are people who other people overlooked because they don't spark on a first date. They're not particularly extroverted. Maybe they're not the most charming. It takes them time to warm up. But these are such solid, reliable, incredible partners. And I'm not saying go after the boring person.

I'm saying that some people are really, really sparky when you meet them and you feel very drawn to them. But a lot of the best relationships are with people who are consistent and who will be a great partner long term.

I'm saying that some people are really, really sparky when you meet them and you feel very drawn to them. But a lot of the best relationships are with people who are consistent and who will be a great partner long term.

I'm saying that some people are really, really sparky when you meet them and you feel very drawn to them. But a lot of the best relationships are with people who are consistent and who will be a great partner long term.

Yeah, you just really summarized my whole philosophy, which is really that a lot of times people come to me and they say, I live in the worst city for dating. There's nobody good out there. And then instead of focusing on the other people who they can't control, I really encourage them to look at their own behavior, point out their dating blind spots, and then choose a different path.

Yeah, you just really summarized my whole philosophy, which is really that a lot of times people come to me and they say, I live in the worst city for dating. There's nobody good out there. And then instead of focusing on the other people who they can't control, I really encourage them to look at their own behavior, point out their dating blind spots, and then choose a different path.

Yeah, you just really summarized my whole philosophy, which is really that a lot of times people come to me and they say, I live in the worst city for dating. There's nobody good out there. And then instead of focusing on the other people who they can't control, I really encourage them to look at their own behavior, point out their dating blind spots, and then choose a different path.

And so I know you know this from writing a lot of books, but you put out a book and you don't necessarily know like what will pop off. Right. But from my book, this concept of the three dating tendencies has become really popular because it's really about identifying what you're doing to hold yourself back. And so it's all about unrealistic expectations. What are the three dating tendencies?

And so I know you know this from writing a lot of books, but you put out a book and you don't necessarily know like what will pop off. Right. But from my book, this concept of the three dating tendencies has become really popular because it's really about identifying what you're doing to hold yourself back. And so it's all about unrealistic expectations. What are the three dating tendencies?

And so I know you know this from writing a lot of books, but you put out a book and you don't necessarily know like what will pop off. Right. But from my book, this concept of the three dating tendencies has become really popular because it's really about identifying what you're doing to hold yourself back. And so it's all about unrealistic expectations. What are the three dating tendencies?

So the first one is the romanticizer. And you'll probably think of different people in your life that are each of these. So the romanticizer is that person who is looking for the soulmate, one person for life. I want the romantic rom-com, we met story. We both reach for the tomato at the same time. And they feel like if I find my soulmate, everything about the relationship will be easy.