Logan Urie

What's holding me back?

And how can I make a different choice in the future?

So I actually want to take your question in a slightly different path.

Great.

which is that this sounds so cheesy, but the thing that I would want to say is hold on to your friendships because your friends are your life board of directors.

These are the people who are going to influence all of your decisions.

They're going to help you figure out if you should go to law school.

They're going to help you get out of that toxic relationship.

They're going to advise you when your child is having a problem.

And I think people take friendship for granted because they are in situations like high school and college where they're meeting a lot of different people.

And they don't understand what's waiting for them on the other side of 30, which is so many of my...

Clients that I work with say, you know, I need help with dating, but I also don't have as many friends as I want, or I haven't seen my college friends in years.

And so really fostering those relationships, investing in them, flying across the country and seeing people, texting them about things in their lives.

I feel like we really overestimate

how easy it will be to find a friend.

And we underestimate how important those long-term friendships are.

And so for your daughter, for her peers, for all those people, your friends are going to have a huge impact on the decisions you make.

So choose wisely and hold on to them.

The interesting thing about ghosting that we found in our research at Hinge is that when you ask people, the majority of people, 40%, say that the reason why they ghost is because they don't know how to explain to somebody why they're not interested in seeing them again.

On the other hand, when you say to people, would you rather...