Logan Urie

be ghosted or have somebody reject you, 85% of people say, reject me.

It hurts in the moment, but I'd rather know.

So one side of the population is saying, it's too hard to tell you why.

And the other side is saying, no, please tell me why.

And so my advice for people is to open up the Notes app on your phone and write a very simple rejection text that you can copy and paste every time.

Give it to us.

Hey, so-and-so.

It was great meeting you, but I don't think we're a romantic match.

Do you need a, I wish you well, I hope you're the best, like all that kind of thing?

You can say that.

You can say, I wish you the best of luck with your triathlon.

I hope you get that job you interviewed for.

You can add whatever you want.

But what I wouldn't add is any feedback because you are not an expert on this person.

You just met them and you don't owe them an explanation or

What you do owe them is the kindness and the decision of I'm not interested in seeing you again.

And so often we let people just sit there in ambiguity wondering, well, I don't know if I should move on because maybe he's just away and maybe he'll text me later.

If he can just let you know he's not interested, it actually gives you the clarity to move on and find someone else.

Yeah.

So a lot of people do avoid the what are we conversation because they either don't know how to do it or they're afraid of the answer that they're going to get.