Lucy Hale

I didn't understand what was happening, but of course I'm absorbing the energy of that. And I wanted to make my dad and my mom happy. And so I was like a shapeshifter. I could do whatever I needed to do. I realized early on, if I acted this way, that made certain people happy. If I acted this way, it made certain people not happy. So I'm not going to do that. So I'm just going to be this person.

I didn't understand what was happening, but of course I'm absorbing the energy of that. And I wanted to make my dad and my mom happy. And so I was like a shapeshifter. I could do whatever I needed to do. I realized early on, if I acted this way, that made certain people happy. If I acted this way, it made certain people not happy. So I'm not going to do that. So I'm just going to be this person.

And so I maybe took on some emotional burdens really young. that at all anymore. I've sorted through that. But, but also I think even before I moved to LA, I was just, I was growing up quickly and this is a lot of people's story, right? Like I'm sure as parents, I'm not a parent yet. I'm sure when you're a parent, you're going to screw up, you're going to mess up.

And so I maybe took on some emotional burdens really young. that at all anymore. I've sorted through that. But, but also I think even before I moved to LA, I was just, I was growing up quickly and this is a lot of people's story, right? Like I'm sure as parents, I'm not a parent yet. I'm sure when you're a parent, you're going to screw up, you're going to mess up.

They were doing the best they could. Um, and I have been really lucky that they've been very, my sweet mom, She's been so patient with me over the years and I've always been very supported by both my parents. I think at times maybe not understood by them. I think we're all different people, but I have a really good relationship with my mom and a good relationship with my dad too.

They were doing the best they could. Um, and I have been really lucky that they've been very, my sweet mom, She's been so patient with me over the years and I've always been very supported by both my parents. I think at times maybe not understood by them. I think we're all different people, but I have a really good relationship with my mom and a good relationship with my dad too.

I see my parts of them in me. I definitely know what I've gotten from my dad and what I get from my mom. And it's such a nice place to have forgiven. This is what I mean about not blaming. How many people do you know are like, well, my so-and-so did this and that's why I'm this way. It's like, okay, keep telling yourself that and you're going to keep being miserable.

I see my parts of them in me. I definitely know what I've gotten from my dad and what I get from my mom. And it's such a nice place to have forgiven. This is what I mean about not blaming. How many people do you know are like, well, my so-and-so did this and that's why I'm this way. It's like, okay, keep telling yourself that and you're going to keep being miserable.

So I was like, I'm going to stop blaming all the characters in my life.

So I was like, I'm going to stop blaming all the characters in my life.

the last couple of years.

the last couple of years.

Yeah. I mean, this is new.

Yeah. I mean, this is new.

This is what I mean about the victim mentality. It was, that's what it was like. Oh, well I came from a child of divorce. It's like, yeah, Lucy. So it was like 90% of America, you know, like get over it, deal with it. Don't, don't, don't, don't wallow in it anymore. Okay. That's the cards you've been dealt. What did it teach you? Everything's a learning experience.

This is what I mean about the victim mentality. It was, that's what it was like. Oh, well I came from a child of divorce. It's like, yeah, Lucy. So it was like 90% of America, you know, like get over it, deal with it. Don't, don't, don't, don't wallow in it anymore. Okay. That's the cards you've been dealt. What did it teach you? Everything's a learning experience.

Everything that happens to you, good, bad, ugly, pretty, whatever is there to teach you. If you choose to take that route. And I do. It's exhausting. Sometimes I'm like, ah, ignorance is bliss. But as you know, once you're on that path, there's no looking back. You don't stop. You don't just say, nah, I'm good here. No, keep climbing. Keep going.

Everything that happens to you, good, bad, ugly, pretty, whatever is there to teach you. If you choose to take that route. And I do. It's exhausting. Sometimes I'm like, ah, ignorance is bliss. But as you know, once you're on that path, there's no looking back. You don't stop. You don't just say, nah, I'm good here. No, keep climbing. Keep going.

Exactly.

Exactly.