Lucy Meggeson

My main thoughts were about the guy in my life at the time.

And if there wasn't a guy in my life at the time, it was like, well, who's going to be the next guy in my life?

It felt like that.

By the way, can you see that tiny little spider?

But the fact that I just mentioned one and there's a freaking spider right in my line of sight in the podcast studio, that is weird.

That is weird.

That is weird.

No, that's bad luck.

Have you never heard that?

Bad luck to kill a spider.

Well, I could never get close enough to one to actually kill it because I'm not scared of them.

But how weird is that?

Anyway, I've completely forgotten what I was saying or what we were saying.

I've forgotten.

We got distracted by the spider.

I know what it was.

So back through my teens, 20s, 30s, it was all like guys, guys, guys, guys, guys.

and that was the kind of driving force that was the sort of priority and ultimately I think this is how women are raised and so many we are we are so conditioned to think that until we get the guy we get married we have the engagement ring we have the kids we have the house we're so conditioned to think that unless we do that we are in some way failing um

that we forget to ask ourselves, what do we actually want from our lives?

And going back to what you were saying about settling, I think, I hate to say this, but I think so many people do settle in relationships and you only need to look at the divorce rate, which is more than 50% to realize that people are settling.